Staying together for the sake of the kids…is it worth it?

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Back in the fifties and sixties, divorce was not as prevalent as it is today.  Divorce laws were tougher and it was mostly the domain of celebrities.  However, many couples raising baby boomers wanted to stay together for the sake of the children in order to remain respectful in the community and to maintain an in tact family.

Psychologists and “having a shrink” became vogue in the late seventies and eighties, and since then, dramatically changed their opinions about divorce and domestic violence, as the women’s movement took hold.

Today, if you ask therapists about staying together merely for the sake of the children, most would generally advise not to do that.  The reason:  in a home where a divorce should occur, staying together creates an unhealthy environment in which to raise children.  There are several reasons:

The children learn abuse, verbal and  physical.  They learn disrespect, not love.  They see fighting and arguing among adults.  They blame themselves for their parents’ malfunctions.  They act out in school.  They develop problems interacting with others.  The list can go on and on.

If you are in a situation that requires a divorce but you are not sure what to do, consult with a marriage counselor.  Then see a divorce lawyer to protect  your rights.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the attorneys at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.

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Divorce and the holidays…what is right for you?

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Shoud you file for divorce before the year is out?  There are two ways to look at that question.  First, if your marriage is on the rocks, are you able to stick it out as an intact family until after the holidays?  Staying together for the sake of the kids plays heavily in this decision.  But obviously, if domestic violence, alcoholism, and drug abuse is part of the marriage, why suffer through the holidays, why wait any longer? 

Or, the other way to look at that question is as follows:  if you file for divorce before the holidays, you get somewhat of a fresh start to the New Year even if the divorce won’t be final for several months. 

The choice is a very personal one.  It also depends upon the circumstances, the family entanglement, finances. and one’s tolerance level during the holidays, which is normally a stressful time for anyone anyway.  Add that together with the current economic conditions, and the answer may come clear to you.

As a divorce lawyer, I never encourage anyone to divorce without seriously thinking the matter through.   If you want to know your rights, options and alternatives, click on the law firm’s website at www.familylawwpb.com or consult with one of the attorneys at Robin Roshkind, P.A. by calling for an appointment at 561-835-9091.