Staying Married for the Right Reasons?

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

In the good ole days, (the fifties and sixties) the majority of couples used to fall in love, get married,then have sex and ultimately children.  The “normal” marriage age was around 21 years old, after the boys came back from war or graduated from college and could afford to support a wife and a family.  Fast forward to 2013, where 40 is the new 20.  There are all sorts of reasons couples get married or stay married today.  Love may not one of them.

Here are our modern day legal reasons to get married or to stay married: for a nice lifestyle and financial security; for marital rights to an inheritance; for marital rights to have health insurance coverage; for immigration reasons and a green card sponsorship by the American husband or the American wife; for companionship and the concept of growing old together…translation: someone to take care of you in your old age.  Last, but not least, taxes!

It is common knowledge that men trade love for sex and women trade sex for financial support.  But the good news is that is all changing, as the reasons to marry or stay married are expanding.  Legally speaking, of course.  When you sit down to think about it, marriage laws served their purpose in the good ole days.  Marriage laws still provide the shield, but they also provide the sword.  For more information about marriage and divorce, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.

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Can You Still Have Sex With Spouse While Divorcing???

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

I am not a moralist…I am a Florida Bar divorce lawyer.  Legally speaking, you can have sex with whomever you want to.  Florida is a no fault state.

If you are in divorce proceedings, and are still having sex with your husband or wife, this just might make settlement EASIER.  Yes, EASIER.  You still have a commonality which obviously matters to both of you.  I am a lawyer, not a therapist.  And I am not suggesting you do this, but, as a lawyer, I don’t find it entirely bad.

Sex is communication.  Divorce settlements require communication.  You can connect the dots for yourself.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.

If You’re In Abusive Relationship, Get Out Now

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Although I am a divorce lawyer in Palm Beach County, Florida, I often think I could have been a therapist.  In dealing with legal issues of divorce matters, I often counsel my clients to help them to feel better about their decision , because divorce is not easy under the best of circumstances.

If you think you are being abused in your marriage, your recourse is 1) to get counseling to fix the problem, or 2) get out before the situation escalates.  Here are some tips to determine whether or not you should file for divorce immediately:

1.  If your spouse isolates you from friends and family.

2.  If your spouse is verbally demeaning, puts you down in front of people (even your children),  ridicules you, constantly critisizes at every turn, you can never do anything right,  bullies you, or purposely embarrases you.

3.  If your spouse blames everyone (mostly you) for all of his/her bad fortune.  It’s never his/her fault.

4.  If your spouse is jealous of you, what you do, who you are with, your time away from him/her.

5.  If you have a parent/child or master/servant relationship and you are the child or servant, you are being abused.

6.  If your spouse threatens you with leaving, hurting you or your children, cutting you off financially, or uses fear to control you, time to flee.

7.  If your spouse is an addict of any kind, i.e. illegal or prescription drugs, alcoholic, sex, shopping, gambling, internet surfing, or any other addiction, it is at YOUR expense emotionally.

8.  If you catch your spouse cheating on you or spying on you.

9.  Of course physical violence is the holy grail of abusers.  Get out while you still can before anyone gets hurt.

For more information about divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

Reasons Marriages Fail

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

There are many reasons for divorce, and we divorce lawyers know that every divorce case is different.  The themes (i.e.child support, alimony) are the same but every marriage has its own intricacies.

Here are some reasons marriages fail:

1.  Marrying too young and growing apart.

2.  Huge age difference.

3.  Having children.

4.  Sickness of the spouse or children.

5.  Financial problems.

6.  Loss of job.

7.  Being divorced previously or being a child of divorce.

8.  Abuse, physical or mental.

9. Different values.

10.  Different religions.

There are many other reasons marriages fail such as meddling in laws or outside influences, cheating, and mistrust.  If you see yourself in any of these circumstances, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. for more information at 561 835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.

Don’t Get Married IF………….

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

For those of you who are contemplating entering into a new marriage this Valentine’s Day or hereafter,  here is some legal advice to consider:  DON’T GET MARRIED IF:

1.  Your love is deeply in debt or has bad credit.

2.  Your love always asks you for money or loans.

3.  Your love is needy, financially or otherwise.

4.  You find yourself the victim of verbal, mental or physical abuse.

5.  You can’t get along with his/her kids.

6.  He/she can’t get along with yours.

7.  Your kids don’t get along with his/her kids.

8.  You want a pre nuptial agreement and he/she refuses to sign or vice versa.

9.  You don’t know him/her longer than one month.

10.  The sex is great but everything else is mediocre.

If you have any doubts or issues, see a therapist.  Then see a lawyer.  For more information about this or other family law questions, call one of the family lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com

How To Catch a Cheating Husband or Wife.

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

You may have your suspicions, but how do you actually catch a cheater?

Let me count the ways…

1.  WATCH THE MONEY.   Having a girlfriend  is like a luxury item…it costs money.   Look on your bank statements for cash withdrawals, ATM use, credit card statements, investment account withdrawals and the like.  You may find unusual activity.  Photocopy everything!

2.  CHECK THE CELL PHONE.   Repeat numbers dialed, or repeat calls received is good evidence.  Also, when your spouse is in the shower or watching his/her favorite football team/tv  show, check the text messages.  You would be surprised at what you will find.

3.  PAY ATTENTION TO HOW LONG HE/SHE SITS AT THE COMPUTER. He/she may be on a dating web site such as match.com or communicating with a lover.   There are forensic computer technicians who can come in when your spouse is not home and can copy the hard drive.

4.  NOTATE HIS/HER COMINGS AND GOINGS.  Is your spouse out of the house most of the time?  Does he/she come in at all hours of the night?

5.  HIRE A PRIVATE EYE.  This is how you get a lot of information.  And photos.

For more information about divorce tips and the law, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.

Deciding to Divorce…things to consider.

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Deciding to divorce is like deciding to get married…it is life changing.  Below are several issues to think about while you see how this weekend goes with your husband or wife:

1.  The kids.  Some people stay together for the sake of the kids.  Some people get divorced for the sake of the kids.  The question is should you limit exposure of your kids to your spouse.

2.  The finances.  Divorce used to be for the rich and famous.  It is going back to that.   Divorce lawyers are expensive, and so is the divorce.

3.  Mindset.  Can the husband and wife have an amicable divorce or is it going to be like the movie, War of the Roses.

4.  Relocation.  Do you want to stay where you are or relocate and move on.

5.  Sex.  Are you getting any?

6.  Violence.  If there is abuse of any kind, get out.  People don’t change.

7.  In laws.  You can divorce them too.

Of course this is a simplified list, and every case is different.  To learn more about your rights in divorce court, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.