My Husband Has A Girlfriend…I Want A Divorce

My Husband Has A Girlfriend…I Want A Divorce.

Why Affairs Don’t Matter In Palm Beach Divorces

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

“He/she has been cheating on me!  This divorce is all his/her fault!”  Those are words that may be spoken in divorce court, but they will have no legal significance and the judge will probably tune it out UNLESS the testimony or evidence can prove there were substantial marital funds expended on the paramour.

Florida is a “no fault” state.  The spouse who is “wronged” does not get to punish the wrongdoer in the legal scheme of things because there is a big difference between moral wrongs and legal ones.  The court is not going to decide who was right and who was wrong.  The court is not going to entertain the reasons for the parties split.  The court is not going to micro manage your lives. 

Where there are cases dissipation of marital assets, due to drugs, gambling, affairs, the court MAY give the wronged spouse additional funds to make up for the misery.  This legal principle is called dissipation of marital assets by one spouse to support his sex, drugs, shopping or other addiction.  But remember, you the innocent spouse, married this person, and stayed married all those years.  It is something to think about.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.

 

The Many Faces of Cheaters

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

You caught your husband/wife cheating.  Now what?  You have two options.  Leave or stay.I hate to boil it down to such a simplistic statement because I recognize the frustration, confrontation, anger, disappointment, hurt, fear and even sometimes violence that results. The emotions of being betrayed are intense and heart wrenching.  What follows discovery of the cheating is either an admission of guilt or denial of same; then there is the blame game.  Or making light of a serious situation. Or remorse and apologies followed by useless promises.  No matter how you look at it, cheating causes marital trouble.

But here’s the big punch:  I am not just talking about cheating as being extra marital sex, adultery, affairs, or romances.  In addition to sex cheating, I am also talking about financial cheating; food cheating; chores cheating; gambling cheating; emotional cheating; alcohol or drugs cheating.  Think about it for a minute.  Some marriages have more than one!

These many faces of cheating can have serious and disastrous effects on a marriage.  Things like financial ruin,broken trust, abandonment, domestic violence.

If you find yourself to be the victim of a cheater, like I said before, you can either leave or stay.  If you stay, hope for change.  If you leave, your life is then under your control.

For more information about divorce in Palm Beach County, call one of the divorce lawyers at Robin Roshkind, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.

Can You Still Have Sex With Spouse While Divorcing???

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

I am not a moralist…I am a Florida Bar divorce lawyer.  Legally speaking, you can have sex with whomever you want to.  Florida is a no fault state.

If you are in divorce proceedings, and are still having sex with your husband or wife, this just might make settlement EASIER.  Yes, EASIER.  You still have a commonality which obviously matters to both of you.  I am a lawyer, not a therapist.  And I am not suggesting you do this, but, as a lawyer, I don’t find it entirely bad.

Sex is communication.  Divorce settlements require communication.  You can connect the dots for yourself.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.

Can A Cheating Spouse Be Punished By Florida Divorce Courts?

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Sitting in my office, listening to potential divorce clients, it seems like no one is having sex within their marriage.  They are either sex deprived, or they or their spouse are cheating on the side.

To some extent, the Florida law protects cheaters, directing the “cheated upon” spouse to simply divorce the cheater.   That’s what is meant when we divorce lawyers say Florida is a “no fault” state.    However, the law does protect an innocent spouse from dissipation of marital assets.   What that means is if a cheater is spending significant sums of marital monies on the affair, that so called dissipation of marital assets can be considered in the financial scheme of the divorce.  There may be an unequal equitable distribution given in favor of the innocent spouse by the divorce court judge.

Case law defines significant sums as: buying a girl friend an expensive car, paying her rent, buying a condo for the paramour, taking numerous expensive vacations or shopping trips, all the usual but expensive trappings of keeping a lover.   A casual dinner out does not qualify.

If you suspect your spouse is the cheating kind, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb for more information.  We may want to put a private eye on your spouse and use that testimony and evidence in court to get you the better part of the marital estate.

Do I Need A Divorce Lawyer To Get A Divorce In Palm Beach County?

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

The answer is it depends.  Legally, you do  not need a divorce lawyer.  Your life is at stake, but this is not criminal court.  If you have virtually nothing to divide, no children to worry about, you can probably do your own divorce.

However, if you have a claim for alimony, or a defense to it, or have children, or assets and debts to fight over, chances are you need counsel.  The more issues there are between the husband and the wife, the more likely there is a disputed issue (or several) and you will want someone on your side.

Additionally, you might want other professionals to assure that you will get what you are entitled to.  That could be a CPA or even a psychologist.  For more information, come in for a consultation.  Call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.

Reasons Marriages Fail

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

There are many reasons for divorce, and we divorce lawyers know that every divorce case is different.  The themes (i.e.child support, alimony) are the same but every marriage has its own intricacies.

Here are some reasons marriages fail:

1.  Marrying too young and growing apart.

2.  Huge age difference.

3.  Having children.

4.  Sickness of the spouse or children.

5.  Financial problems.

6.  Loss of job.

7.  Being divorced previously or being a child of divorce.

8.  Abuse, physical or mental.

9. Different values.

10.  Different religions.

There are many other reasons marriages fail such as meddling in laws or outside influences, cheating, and mistrust.  If you see yourself in any of these circumstances, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. for more information at 561 835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.