In Palm Beach County Courts, Custody Battles Are Ugly

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Divorcing couples can usually let a judge decide on an equitable split of marital assets and debts.  They can also agree in mediation to spousal support (alimony) and who will pay what household bills.  But when it comes to the parties’ children, neither the husband or the wife will admit they are “bad” parents.  So time sharing of the minor children can be a hotly contested divorce issue that a judge will have to decide.

If you are a parent who basically ignores homework, school plays, sports games, then you run the risk of less time with your children because it is what you do anyway.  If you are partying until dawn, drinking and driving, or have other personal issues, it is likely that you will have less time with your children, or even have supervised time sharing.  (No court wants a parent who has an alcohol problem to be driving children around.)

Watch out for text messages, emails, facebook and the like that can become damning evidence against you.  That is especially true if you send abusive messages to your children.  If you disparage the other parent to the children, this is another violation that is not tolerated by the divorce court judge.  Courts even have a name for it–  “parental alienation”.  Parents who are easily angered in the court room will also exhibit out of control behavior, and this, too, will not help your case.  For more information about how to initiate or defend a time sharing dispute over children, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

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Court Orders Dealing With Children and Divorce

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

There are many issues to be decided regarding children in divorce cases.  They include child support, shared parental responsibility (otherwise known as major decisions) regarding travel, passports, schooling, (private, public, or home), day care and after care, health insurance,  parental alienation, siblings, activities, number of over night stays which each parent, and ultimately who pays for what, like team uniforms, equipment, clothing and supplies, uncovered medical and dental care.

When the divorcing parents come to an agreement regarding the well being of their children, that agreement is reduced to a court order.  Or, if the judge must decide what is in the best interests of the child/ren, that becomes a court order.  Court orders are enforceable by the judge.

But court orders involving children can be changed or modified, provided there is a substantial change in circumstances from the time the original court order was entered.  So whether it is child support, which can be reduced or increased, or a parent needs to relocate, or the time sharing needs adjusting, or whatever it is that has to do with minor children in divorce cases, court orders can be modified IF the parties or court determines it is in the best interests of the children because of a change in circumstance.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

 

What Happens If You Are The Unpopular Parent

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

The subject of divorce and children is a very interesting and multifaceted one.  During divorce proceedings, children generally blame themselves for the split, secretly hope their parents will get back together, resent a boyfriend/girlfriend of the parent, seeing them as a “replacement”, choose sides, and learn how to play one parent against the other. 

 Parents, on the other hand, want to be the favorite…the parent the child/ren wants to come to, stay with, spend more time with. Often parents disparage the other or “buy” a child’s love just to outdo the other parent. 

Sometimes children adjust very well to the divorce situation and sometimes they act out, become violent, or exhibit other troublesome behaviors.  Divorce is a tough but necessary choice and children become a sensitive topic.  My advice is to watch your children closely and if they develop any problems, get them professional help at the outset.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

 

If You Are Divorcing With Children …Many Issues to Consider

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Divorce is tragic enough because it is the result of a failed marriage where two people once saw a future together.  But when there are children involved, it makes divorce much more difficult.  Adjustments to family life and single life are harder.  There are more issues to consider.  Emotions run high.

Below is a check list of things to consider if you are divorcing with children in the picture:

1.  Finances and child support…household budgets.

2.  Time sharing allocations to Husband and Wife.

3.  Logistics as to time sharing with reference to travel expenses, children’s clothes, air fares, gas, long car rides, a safe car; who will pick up, who will drop off, when and where.

4.  Health of the child: prescription medications, food alergies, sports injuries, emergency care.   Following directions to administer medicine as needed. 

5.  Health insurance for children must be provided by the parent most able to do so.

6.  Education of the children…where will they go to school; private or public school and religious training.

7.  Extracurricular activities of the children…who will pay for uniforms, equipment, and travel.

8.   Unfit parent issues like drug abuse, alcoholism, irresponsibility.

9.  Parental alienation issues where one parent disparages the other causing the children to react negatively to that parent.

10.  Outside relationships and children…kids going through a divorce should not be exposed to a boyfriend or girlfriend of a parent too soon in the process, as it confuses children and causes feelings of disloyalty to parents and guilt.

This list could go on and on.  Sometimes if children are having difficulty adjusting, they need to seek counseling.  One parent may approve, and the other may not, in which case you need court intervention.   With so much to consider when there are children and divorcing parents, it is best to seek the advice of your divorce lawyer, because each case is different…each family’s needs are different.

If you are thinking about divorcing in Palm Beach County and you have children, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com for more information.