Two Reasons To Head To A Divorce Lawyer

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

As a practicing divorce lawyer for more than 14 years, I find some common themes.  I want to share these to see if they apply to my readers.  In my opinion, there are two reasons marriages break down:

Loss of respect and loss of trust.

From these, all other things follow, that most people incorrectly label the “cause” of their divorce: infidelity, in law problems, lack of communication, lack of intimacy, extended family problems, sex or lack thereof, money problems, mental abuse, domestic violence, secrecy, spying, stealing, destruction of property, power struggles, discipline of children or lack thereof, not taking responsibility and the list could go on and on.

Once a marriage falls apart due to either the loss of respect or the loss of trust, it is very hard to put it back together.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

Bad Marriage — 7 Situations That Lead To Divorce Court

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

I am not a shrink, I am a divorce lawyer.  But over the years in my divorce practice, I have made some observations.  The recurring marriage themes that lead husbands and wives to becoming clients sitting in my office are as follows:

1.  Lack of respect.  2. Lack of intimacy. 3.   Physical or mental abuse.  4. Money problems.

5. Addictions.  6. Mistrust.  7. Miscommunication.

Oftentimes, several of these marital problems exist together.  There are two ways to deal with a bad marriage:  fix it or bail.  If you want to fix it, professional help is often warranted. This could be anything from Alcoholics Anonymous to marriage counseling to anger management classes.  Your spouse has to admit there is a problem, and you have to take some responsibility too.

If you have tried to fix a broken marriage and are resolved to go the divorce path as the only way out, talk to a divorce lawyer.  At a consultation, a divorce lawyer should learn about all the facts of the marriage and apply the Florida divorce law to those facts.  Rights, options, and various and possible outcomes should be reviewed and discussed.  It is important to have realistic expectations and know that the wheels of justice turn ever so slowly.  Divorce is a lengthy process.  For more information, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A.   at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.  

 

Should You Forgive Him/Her???

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Should you forgive your spouse?  The lawyerly answer is ” it depends”.  Know your rights first.  Then you can make an informed decision as to whether forgiveness is easier or to move on is easier.  Consider the physical, mental and financial parameters.  Here’s how:

1.  Talk to a shrink.  Marriage counseling and psychotherapy can do one of two things: it can put the marriage back on track, or help with dismantling it.

2.  Talk to a lawyer.  Divorce lawyers can tell you what rights you may have if you stay or if you go.  We can also predict outcomes concerning the family finances and your obligations.

3.  Talk to an accountant.  There are tax ramifications of splits of marital assets and debts.

As with any divorce, there are physical, mental and financial stresses.  However, those may seem easier than forgiving and forgetting, or living every day in a lie.  For more information call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.

Marital Problems get worse around the holidays.

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Around holiday time, things get tough enough with stress levels increasing for everyone.  If a marriage is already in trouble, these holiday external forces usually make matters worse.  Read the list below and you may see yourself here.

1.  BLENDED FAMILIES.  Where there are children from several former spouses, it is difficult to even plan a holiday meal where everyone can be together. 

2.  DEADLINES TO MEET.  Christmas and Hanukah fall on specific dates.  Presents have to be ready when the time comes, which means shopping and wrapping has to be done on time and is often rushed.

3.  MONEY IS TIGHT.  Especially in these troubled times with the economy being what it is, and some of us even being jobless into the new year. 

4.  FIGHTING OVER HOW MUCH TO SPEND or what bills to pay or not pay. Everyone has an opinion and this causes marital friction.

5.  DIFFICULT EXs.  Put the kid on the plane……..or not. 

6.  NOT IN THE MOOD.  Too stresssed for sex.

7.  ADDICTION AND CELEBRATION.  No champagne for alcoholic or drug users.  Or DUIs for those that imbibe.

8.  COMING HOME FOR THE HOLIDAYS.  Everyone knows the stress of travel whether it is on a plane, train, or auto.

9.  STAYING TOGETHER DURING THE HOLIDAYS FOR THE SAKE OF THE KIDS.  Many couples stick it out until January.  

10.  SHOULD YOU OR SHOULDN’T YOU?  There is a way out.  For marriages that can’t outlive the pressure, the way out is separation and divorce.  Consult your local shrink, then call us.

For more information, click on our website at www.familylawwpb.com or consult with one of the attorneys at Robin Roshkind, P.A. by calling 561-835-9091.