Do I Need A Divorce Lawyer To Get A Divorce In Palm Beach County?

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

The answer is it depends.  Legally, you do  not need a divorce lawyer.  Your life is at stake, but this is not criminal court.  If you have virtually nothing to divide, no children to worry about, you can probably do your own divorce.

However, if you have a claim for alimony, or a defense to it, or have children, or assets and debts to fight over, chances are you need counsel.  The more issues there are between the husband and the wife, the more likely there is a disputed issue (or several) and you will want someone on your side.

Additionally, you might want other professionals to assure that you will get what you are entitled to.  That could be a CPA or even a psychologist.  For more information, come in for a consultation.  Call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.

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Should You Get Divorced?

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

You know you are in an unhappy marriage, but should you pick up that phone to contact a divorce lawyer?  Below are some reasons why you should:

1.  If you are being physically hurt.  Domestic violence transcends all socio economic levels.  It should not be tolerated.  You must take your children and get out of harm’s way.

2.  You never have any money.  Your spouse doles out the dollars sparingly making you beg for more.   In divorce court, you will get your life back.

3.   You have no help at home.  It would be easier to just take care of yourself instead of your spouse’ needs too.

4.  Sex, alcohol, gambling, drugs, spending addictions are part of your life.  Your spouse is ruining your life and won’t get help.

5.  You are always on edge, nervous, or walking on egg shells.  No way to live, and life is too short.

6.  Too much yelling.  If you say the sky is blue and your spouse says it has a purple tinge to it, bail now.  Unless you are a litigator and want to spend your life arguing.

7.  Cheaters and liars, oh my.  A leopard does not change its spots.

There are many reasons to not stay married.  Find out today what your rights are for your specific marriage facts.  Call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

Managing Emotions During Divorce

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

In addition to managing money during divorce, it is very difficult to manage your emotions.  You may have a cheater spouse, or an abuser spouse and just want to get even.  Or you may be the cheater or abuser and you just want to get out.

Managing emotions during divorce is tricky but necessary.  I try to explain to my clients that divorce primarily is about children and money, not about power and stuff.  But this is a hard concept to grasp when you are in the middle of a divorce fighting over stupid insignificant things.

Sometimes it is like a continuum, on the least offensive side is resentment and on the most offensive side is revenge.  Put anger, hate, mistrust, hurt in the middle.  With emotions like these flying, it is difficult to stay on course to getting the divorce done intelligently.   Add to the mix a lack of self confidence, confusion, inability to focus, hyperventilating, shakes, headaches and anxiety, and you could end up being a big mess who is difficult to deal with.   This applies equally to men and women.

The best advice I can give you if your emotions are not controllable, is to seek the help of a therapist who can assist you in putting things in perspective.   Then seek legal counsel to sort it all out in an intelligent manner.  If you are thinking about getting a divorce in Palm Beach County, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

Staying together for the sake of the kids…is it worth it?

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Back in the fifties and sixties, divorce was not as prevalent as it is today.  Divorce laws were tougher and it was mostly the domain of celebrities.  However, many couples raising baby boomers wanted to stay together for the sake of the children in order to remain respectful in the community and to maintain an in tact family.

Psychologists and “having a shrink” became vogue in the late seventies and eighties, and since then, dramatically changed their opinions about divorce and domestic violence, as the women’s movement took hold.

Today, if you ask therapists about staying together merely for the sake of the children, most would generally advise not to do that.  The reason:  in a home where a divorce should occur, staying together creates an unhealthy environment in which to raise children.  There are several reasons:

The children learn abuse, verbal and  physical.  They learn disrespect, not love.  They see fighting and arguing among adults.  They blame themselves for their parents’ malfunctions.  They act out in school.  They develop problems interacting with others.  The list can go on and on.

If you are in a situation that requires a divorce but you are not sure what to do, consult with a marriage counselor.  Then see a divorce lawyer to protect  your rights.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the attorneys at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.