By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida
Marriages break up mainly because of two reasons: sex and money. Let’s discuss these one at a time.
Either there is too much sex outside the marriage, and/or not enough sex within the marriage. Marriages can be of the roommate kind as in a roommate marriage with your best friend, a sham marriage (simply a business deal for say immigration purposes or money), sexless marriages that are true marriages in every way except in the bedroom, or open marriages which encompasses sex in and out of the marriage bed. Sex outside the marriage falls into several categories: an affair with someone other than your spouse; multiple sex partners, sex addiciton, pornography; sex chat rooms, use of prostitutes and escort services. However it happens, one of the spouses is getting it, and the other is not. The result? Both spouses are not happy within the marriage.
Regarding money issues, it is obvious that in today’s economic climate, everyone, even the rich, have money problems. Marital discussions lead to disagreements which lead to arguments which lead to contempt, disrespect, even sometimes domestic violence. Some marital issues involve paying the bills, keeping or selling the marital home, cancelling the credit cards, taking out a survival loan, getting a job, moving out of state to get a better job, selling a car, the list is endless.
How to resolve marital problems that are causing stress and sleepless nights? First, I tell clients who need it to seek professional help. Either go to marriage counseling with a psychologist or get medication with a psychiatrist. For stress, coping skills, and anger management there are classes available to take and books you and your spouse can read. For more serious ailments like bi polar disorder or depression, a medical doctor can prescribe drugs to control these illnesses. Alcohol and drug abuse or addiction can also cause a marriage to fail. There are treatment centers for both.
The point is if your marriage is breaking or broken do something! Get immediate help. Then if all else fails, the ultimate recourse is a divorce for your own survival. For more information click on the Robin Roshkind, P.A. website at www.familylawwpb.com or call for a consultation with one of our attorneys at 561-835-9091.