Holidays Can Be Difficult Days For Those In Troubled Marriage

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

It is no surprise that along with the holidays comes the stresses of the season.  It is a well known fact that people stress out over the holidays.  It is especially hard for couples who have failing marriages, couples who are trying to stay together for the sake of the kids, couples who just hopelessly don’t know what to do.

Husbands and wives who have already moved out and on mentally, especially have a hard time keeping it together at this time of year.  How do you pretend?  How do you stay pleasant?  How do you keep from blowing up?  Psychological counseling or marriage counseling is one answer.  A consultation with a divorce lawyer is another.  It may put your mind at ease and give you a plan to keep you from unraveling.   If you know your rights in divorce court, you may be able to make better choices during the season’s festivities.  For more information call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.

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What Is An “Amicable” Divorce?

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

If you are getting a divorce, it is because you have serious marital problems and the marriage is failing…usually over money or sex.  Other factors include drug or alcohol use, abusive or violent behavior, in laws or step kids issues…there are a host of factors that put stress on a marriage.  So how, you ask, can a divorce be “amicable” when you are fighting like cats and dogs in the normal course.

“Amicable” divorce actually means that both parties are on the same page when it comes to getting the divorce.  There are no surprises, such as the case where the Wife had no clue that the Husband was out the door, or the discovery of infidelity.  The Husband and the Wife both realize together that  it is time to end the relationship.  That is the threshold question.  Then they both agree to try to call it quits in a civil manner.   In amicable divorces, the parties agree to attempt to agree.  The result is a collaborative, cooperative effort to getting the job done, and it is sometimes called a collaborative divorce.  The end result is a global settlement of all the divorce issues in that particular marriage. 

Amicable divorces are the preferred of the species, because it relieves the family of severe stress, burdensome attorneys fees, and a long drawn out litigation.  Choosing the right lawyer is all important, because if there are substantial marital assets, lawyers stand to make more money from prolonged litigation.

If you are getting divorced in Palm Beach County, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

Sex and money and marriage… Do something about it to save a failing marriage.

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Marriages break up mainly because of two reasons:  sex and money.  Let’s discuss these one at a time. 

Either there is too much sex outside the marriage, and/or not enough sex within the marriage.  Marriages can be of the roommate kind as in a roommate marriage with your best friend, a sham marriage (simply a business deal for say immigration purposes or money), sexless marriages that are true marriages in every way except in the bedroom, or open marriages which encompasses sex in and out of the marriage bed.   Sex outside the marriage falls into several categories:  an affair with someone other than your spouse; multiple sex partners, sex addiciton, pornography;  sex chat rooms, use of prostitutes and escort services.  However it happens, one of the spouses is getting it, and the other is not.  The result?  Both spouses are not happy within the marriage.

Regarding money issues, it is obvious that in today’s economic climate, everyone, even the rich, have money problems.  Marital discussions lead to disagreements which lead to arguments which lead to contempt, disrespect, even sometimes domestic violence.  Some marital issues involve paying the bills, keeping or selling the marital home, cancelling the credit cards, taking out a survival loan, getting a job, moving out of state to get a better job, selling a car, the list is endless. 

How to resolve marital problems that are causing stress and sleepless nights?  First, I tell clients who need it to seek professional help.  Either go to marriage counseling with a psychologist or get medication with a psychiatrist.  For stress, coping skills, and anger management there are classes available to take and books you and your spouse can read.  For more serious ailments like bi polar disorder or depression, a medical doctor can prescribe drugs to control these illnesses.  Alcohol and drug abuse or addiction can also cause a marriage to fail.  There are treatment centers for both. 

The point is if your marriage is breaking or broken do something!  Get immediate help.  Then if all else fails, the ultimate recourse is a divorce for your own survival.  For more information click on the Robin Roshkind, P.A. website at www.familylawwpb.com or call for a consultation with one of our attorneys at 561-835-9091.