Football Fever = Divorce Fever

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Around football season, basketball season, and summer season (as in fishing or golf), I often see a slight uptick in divorce cases.  I can only assume this is because the wife is usually left alone or ignored too much during the gaming seasons.  I am a divorce lawyer, not a therapist, but from experience, I can tell you that an already bad or shaky marriage gets worse, when a husband is otherwise distracted by… fill in the blank… football, basketball, fishing or golf. 

These are generally guy activities which men do with other men, and often don’t include the wives.  Also, the wives generally don’t want to be included, but that doesn’t change the dynamics of the marriage.  If there is an underlying current of familiarity or contempt, to the point of being room mates or worse, as in beer driven domestic violence, marriages can get pretty ugly.

While husbands are looking at the TV, Wives look at the piles of laundry, bills or garbage left in the kitchen, and have had enough.   After all, they work all week too, and also need a distraction.  Nothing like learning or knowing your rights from a divorce lawyer as a good distraction and alternative.  For more information about how divorce can effect you, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.   

 

 

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Two Reasons To Head To A Divorce Lawyer

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

As a practicing divorce lawyer for more than 14 years, I find some common themes.  I want to share these to see if they apply to my readers.  In my opinion, there are two reasons marriages break down:

Loss of respect and loss of trust.

From these, all other things follow, that most people incorrectly label the “cause” of their divorce: infidelity, in law problems, lack of communication, lack of intimacy, extended family problems, sex or lack thereof, money problems, mental abuse, domestic violence, secrecy, spying, stealing, destruction of property, power struggles, discipline of children or lack thereof, not taking responsibility and the list could go on and on.

Once a marriage falls apart due to either the loss of respect or the loss of trust, it is very hard to put it back together.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

Lies Husbands and Wives Tell

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

It’s no secret that spouses keep secrets from each other.  Some are more severe than others and many involve extramarital affairs.  However, there are lies that are told, that can literally cause a divorce.  Here are some of them:

1.  Lying about a gambling problem or spending money on drugs.

2.  Lying about trust fund checks, secret bank accounts or other income.

3.  Lying about being fired from work.

4.  Lying about past debts like unpaid credit card bills or student loans.

5.  Lying about getting a big bonus or raise.

6.  Lying about supporting a former spouse or former girl friend or boyfriend.

7.  Lying about having kids from another relationship.

8.  Lying about paying household expenses when they are in fact not paid.

9.  Lying about lottery winnings, and online or TV shopping addictions.

These lies break the trust between a husband and wife.  They also cause real problems with bill paying, and wreak havoc on family finances.  If you are the victim, you may be better off single.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 8335 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

“He Said She Said” Not Enough In Divorce Court

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida
After filing for divorce in Palm Beach County, it is mandatory that the parties exchange financial information by way of proof.  This helps to settle divorce issues like alimony and attorneys fees, child support and division of marital assets and debts.

Each party must provide to the other things like tax returns, bank statements, credit card bills, pay check stubs or income statements, mortgages, investment and retirement accounts and the like.  Both parties are required to disclose this information under Florida Family Law Rule 12.285, which is commonly referred to as the mandatory disclosure rule.  In most cases, the court requires going back one to three years with these statements.

The court views these statements as the back up data to a parties’ sworn financial affidavit, perhaps the most important document in any divorce.  A divorce cannot be granted without one.  Proof of income is used for child support calculation purposes; to show need or ability to pay alimony and attorneys fees.  Credit card and other billing statements show debt.  Investment accounts, mortgages, and deeds to real estate show lifestyle of the marriage and determine equitable distribution schemes.

The paper pile tends to grow but merely standing in court and testifying as to your need, or lifestyle or debt is just not enough for the divorce court judge.  Your allegations must always be backed up by proof.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

Who Should Be On Your Divorce Team?

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida
If you are going through a divorce, you have lots of experts giving you great guidance, advice, and opinions: your BFF, your next door neighbor who heard or saw all the fuss, your mother, your co-workers, your hairdresser.  But the team you really need on your side consists of professionals who are well versed in dealing with divorce issues.

You should first consider who you hire as a DIVORCE LAWYER.  Be sure there is a open line of communication and confidence, and no personality conflicts.  Second in line should be your SHRINK.   This professional will help you get through the stress and emotions of separation, divorce, and transitioning to an individual.  Next comes your FORENSIC ACCOUNTANT.  This team member is the number cruncher who traces money and assets, both obvious and hidden.  Then there is the PRIVATE INVESTIGATOR.  This professional tracks down a carousing, partying spouses, who may or may be spending substantial money on a paramour.  They also get the goods on drinkers and drug users.

Lastly, comes your KEY WITNESSES:  teachers, babysitters, friends with children who play with yours, medical professionals, or police officers who had to come investigate domestic violence, if any, and any other witnesses who can help your cause.

For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

You And Your Divorce Lawyer…

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

You and your divorce lawyer have a special relationship. First, anything conveyed to your lawyer, in writing or verbally, is confidential.  This includes any communications with any of your lawyer’s staffers as well.  Your lawyer is there to advocate for your position and hold you out in the best light possible under the facts of the matter.

Your lawyer knows divorce law in your jurisdiction.  You must listen and follow his or her advice.  That is what you are paying for…your lawyer’s time, skill set and expertise.

Speaking of paying, be sure you keep current with your bill.  Your lawyer will stay on and continue to represent you, as long as the legal fees are being paid.  The reverse is true as well.  If for some reason you do not pay your lawyer, the judge most likely will let your lawyer withdraw from representing you.

You must cooperate.  If you are supposed to produce documents, don’t be your own worst enemy, or your lawyer’s, by not producing these items in a timely manner.

Lastly, if you are not sure about something, call for a meeting with your lawyer.  It is much better to have an open discussion than remain in the dark and not understand what is going on that involves your future.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

What Type Of Divorce Will You Have? Part 2 Settlement or Trial

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

If you are thinking about getting a divorce in Palm Beach County, Florida, know that your divorce can go only one of two ways.  Either you and your spouse will settle your divorce issues, (including alimony, attorneys fees, child support, if any, child time sharing, equitable distribution of assets and debts, non marital property, name changes,) or  you will take all or some of the disputed issues to the judge.

Settlement is quicker, less expensive and less stressful.  But it can only happen if both parties want to settle.  If one spouse wants to settle but the other does not, you are going to trial.  Going to trial entails extensive discovery, depositions, witness preparation, transcripts, document production and analysis by a forensic CPA, court reporters, evidence and logs, and costs a bundle.   It also takes up a great deal of time and could cause illness from the stress of it all.

Counseling and therapy more than lawyering can help husbands and wives decide how to proceed.  Parties who can set aside emotion and just get the job done have a better chance of settlement.  Also judges would rather the spouses manage their own future lives.  They do not like to micro manage families. 

If you are thinking about getting a divorce in Palm Beach County, Florida, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com for more information.