Can I Talk To My Spouse Directly During Divorce?

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

The answer is, it depends.  Technically, if a husband and a wife are in divorce court, and both are represented by divorce lawyers, there should be no direct communication between spouses.  This is because if the spouses are communicating directly with each other, leaving the lawyers out of the loop, then the lawyers are acting or continuing with the representation without the benefit of knowledge as to these discussions.

Certainly if there is animosity between spouses, direct communications need to be limited to just discussions about the children, to fulfill shared parental responsibility principles.  Otherwise, the conversations can be abusive and detrimental to the process.

Where one party is represented by a divorce lawyer, and the other party is not, it is obvious that the party who is unrepresented needs to be speaking directly to the other spouse’ attorney. 

In my experience, where the husband and wife are divorcing and amicable, sometimes I encourage communications between parties, provided they keep both lawyers informed of any substance of the conversation and of any pending agreements.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at for more information.