Why Sexting Is Bad For Your Finances In Divorce Court

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Did you ever notice how messaging on your IPHONE works?  Generally, outsiders cannot have access to information on your iphone unless you a passcode is entered. But if a text message is sent to your phone, that message appears right on the top of the phone, and for all the world to see.

So if you are getting sexting messages, or carrying on any kind of relationship outside the marriage, it will be obvious to your spouse when you run into the store to get a carton of milk, take a shower, walks the dog or otherwise leave the phone temporarily and inadvertently in the “care” of your spouse when at the same time a sexting message just happens to come in.

Yes, the proverbial cat will be out of the bag.  What does this mean?  Your spouse will now have at least some facts and evidence against you and will  take depositions to learn if any marital monies have been spent on this sexting partner of yours.  That legal principle is called ‘dissipation of marital assets’.

Potentially, the sexting gave it away.  Where marital funds are spent on a romance outside of the marriage, if the monies are substantial, you may have to give one half of those monies back to your spouse in any divorce settlement or adjudication by the court.  Be forewarned and be aware.  The moral of the story: there is no privacy in divorce court or on your iphone.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.

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The Many Faces of Cheaters

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

You caught your husband/wife cheating.  Now what?  You have two options.  Leave or stay.I hate to boil it down to such a simplistic statement because I recognize the frustration, confrontation, anger, disappointment, hurt, fear and even sometimes violence that results. The emotions of being betrayed are intense and heart wrenching.  What follows discovery of the cheating is either an admission of guilt or denial of same; then there is the blame game.  Or making light of a serious situation. Or remorse and apologies followed by useless promises.  No matter how you look at it, cheating causes marital trouble.

But here’s the big punch:  I am not just talking about cheating as being extra marital sex, adultery, affairs, or romances.  In addition to sex cheating, I am also talking about financial cheating; food cheating; chores cheating; gambling cheating; emotional cheating; alcohol or drugs cheating.  Think about it for a minute.  Some marriages have more than one!

These many faces of cheating can have serious and disastrous effects on a marriage.  Things like financial ruin,broken trust, abandonment, domestic violence.

If you find yourself to be the victim of a cheater, like I said before, you can either leave or stay.  If you stay, hope for change.  If you leave, your life is then under your control.

For more information about divorce in Palm Beach County, call one of the divorce lawyers at Robin Roshkind, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.

Managing Emotions During Divorce

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

In addition to managing money during divorce, it is very difficult to manage your emotions.  You may have a cheater spouse, or an abuser spouse and just want to get even.  Or you may be the cheater or abuser and you just want to get out.

Managing emotions during divorce is tricky but necessary.  I try to explain to my clients that divorce primarily is about children and money, not about power and stuff.  But this is a hard concept to grasp when you are in the middle of a divorce fighting over stupid insignificant things.

Sometimes it is like a continuum, on the least offensive side is resentment and on the most offensive side is revenge.  Put anger, hate, mistrust, hurt in the middle.  With emotions like these flying, it is difficult to stay on course to getting the divorce done intelligently.   Add to the mix a lack of self confidence, confusion, inability to focus, hyperventilating, shakes, headaches and anxiety, and you could end up being a big mess who is difficult to deal with.   This applies equally to men and women.

The best advice I can give you if your emotions are not controllable, is to seek the help of a therapist who can assist you in putting things in perspective.   Then seek legal counsel to sort it all out in an intelligent manner.  If you are thinking about getting a divorce in Palm Beach County, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

Reasons Marriages Fail

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

There are many reasons for divorce, and we divorce lawyers know that every divorce case is different.  The themes (i.e.child support, alimony) are the same but every marriage has its own intricacies.

Here are some reasons marriages fail:

1.  Marrying too young and growing apart.

2.  Huge age difference.

3.  Having children.

4.  Sickness of the spouse or children.

5.  Financial problems.

6.  Loss of job.

7.  Being divorced previously or being a child of divorce.

8.  Abuse, physical or mental.

9. Different values.

10.  Different religions.

There are many other reasons marriages fail such as meddling in laws or outside influences, cheating, and mistrust.  If you see yourself in any of these circumstances, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. for more information at 561 835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.

What “Causes” Divorce?

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Many married couples go along not realizing how a relationship can deteriorate into a bad situation.  Then when their partner mentions divorce, they are completely taken by surprise.

The list is a short one as to the main causes for divorce: sex, money, power.

Take sex first…either there is not enough sex in the marriage, or no sex, or sex outside the marriage.  Affairs, adultery, cheating, broken loyalty and broken trust is the result.  Irreconcilable differences arise.

Re: money, financial strain on the marriage causes arguing as to what bills go unpaid, foreclosure of the marital home, loss of job or income, laziness to find work, mounting expenses… all are ripe grounds for discontent, dispute and divorce.

Then comes power, which can result in controlling behavior of one over the other.  Verbal or physical abuse, domestic violence claims, criminal behavior of stealing a spouse’ personal property (like jewelry or tools), is the result.

Other causes of divorce include mental health problems, issues with in laws or extended families, children of another marriage, drug or alcohol use. While each case is different, if you see yourself in any of the above scenarios, consult with a divorce lawyer immediately to protect your rights.   Call one of the lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.