Football Fever = Divorce Fever

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Around football season, basketball season, and summer season (as in fishing or golf), I often see a slight uptick in divorce cases.  I can only assume this is because the wife is usually left alone or ignored too much during the gaming seasons.  I am a divorce lawyer, not a therapist, but from experience, I can tell you that an already bad or shaky marriage gets worse, when a husband is otherwise distracted by… fill in the blank… football, basketball, fishing or golf. 

These are generally guy activities which men do with other men, and often don’t include the wives.  Also, the wives generally don’t want to be included, but that doesn’t change the dynamics of the marriage.  If there is an underlying current of familiarity or contempt, to the point of being room mates or worse, as in beer driven domestic violence, marriages can get pretty ugly.

While husbands are looking at the TV, Wives look at the piles of laundry, bills or garbage left in the kitchen, and have had enough.   After all, they work all week too, and also need a distraction.  Nothing like learning or knowing your rights from a divorce lawyer as a good distraction and alternative.  For more information about how divorce can effect you, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.   

 

 

Two Reasons To Head To A Divorce Lawyer

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

As a practicing divorce lawyer for more than 14 years, I find some common themes.  I want to share these to see if they apply to my readers.  In my opinion, there are two reasons marriages break down:

Loss of respect and loss of trust.

From these, all other things follow, that most people incorrectly label the “cause” of their divorce: infidelity, in law problems, lack of communication, lack of intimacy, extended family problems, sex or lack thereof, money problems, mental abuse, domestic violence, secrecy, spying, stealing, destruction of property, power struggles, discipline of children or lack thereof, not taking responsibility and the list could go on and on.

Once a marriage falls apart due to either the loss of respect or the loss of trust, it is very hard to put it back together.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

Bad Marriage — 7 Situations That Lead To Divorce Court

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

I am not a shrink, I am a divorce lawyer.  But over the years in my divorce practice, I have made some observations.  The recurring marriage themes that lead husbands and wives to becoming clients sitting in my office are as follows:

1.  Lack of respect.  2. Lack of intimacy. 3.   Physical or mental abuse.  4. Money problems.

5. Addictions.  6. Mistrust.  7. Miscommunication.

Oftentimes, several of these marital problems exist together.  There are two ways to deal with a bad marriage:  fix it or bail.  If you want to fix it, professional help is often warranted. This could be anything from Alcoholics Anonymous to marriage counseling to anger management classes.  Your spouse has to admit there is a problem, and you have to take some responsibility too.

If you have tried to fix a broken marriage and are resolved to go the divorce path as the only way out, talk to a divorce lawyer.  At a consultation, a divorce lawyer should learn about all the facts of the marriage and apply the Florida divorce law to those facts.  Rights, options, and various and possible outcomes should be reviewed and discussed.  It is important to have realistic expectations and know that the wheels of justice turn ever so slowly.  Divorce is a lengthy process.  For more information, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A.   at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.  

 

The Many Faces of Cheaters

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

You caught your husband/wife cheating.  Now what?  You have two options.  Leave or stay.I hate to boil it down to such a simplistic statement because I recognize the frustration, confrontation, anger, disappointment, hurt, fear and even sometimes violence that results. The emotions of being betrayed are intense and heart wrenching.  What follows discovery of the cheating is either an admission of guilt or denial of same; then there is the blame game.  Or making light of a serious situation. Or remorse and apologies followed by useless promises.  No matter how you look at it, cheating causes marital trouble.

But here’s the big punch:  I am not just talking about cheating as being extra marital sex, adultery, affairs, or romances.  In addition to sex cheating, I am also talking about financial cheating; food cheating; chores cheating; gambling cheating; emotional cheating; alcohol or drugs cheating.  Think about it for a minute.  Some marriages have more than one!

These many faces of cheating can have serious and disastrous effects on a marriage.  Things like financial ruin,broken trust, abandonment, domestic violence.

If you find yourself to be the victim of a cheater, like I said before, you can either leave or stay.  If you stay, hope for change.  If you leave, your life is then under your control.

For more information about divorce in Palm Beach County, call one of the divorce lawyers at Robin Roshkind, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.

BAD MARRIAGES GET WORSE DURING THE HOLIDAYS

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

If you’ve married for love and the love has run out…or you married for money and the money has run out, changes are, you and your husband or wife are not the happily married couple everyone thinks.  With the holidays upon us, it can be especially difficult to keep smiling and pretending.

There are all sorts of marital stresses during the holidays.  First, consider the now very common blended families.  Children and ex spouses from another lifetime suddenly appear at your dining table.  Time sharing squabbles, airline delays, and disputed schedule changes are hard enough, but during the holidays, they all seem to magnify.

Second, consider the family budget. With the current state of the economy, holiday spending is a hot topic of dispute.  Even something so simple as when and where to shop can become major wars in a household already on edge.
Third, no rest for the weary takes the place of sexual intimacy in front of the fireplace.  Forgive me for being a grinch, but let’s get real here.  You do have a house full of people, right?

Lastly, closing out the year and having high hopes for the new year causes one to reflect.  Like those new year’s resolutions, if divorce is one of your aspirations, I am here to help get you through.  For more information, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

All I Want For Christmas Is A Divorce!

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

It is on many couples’ wish list.  But several couples are afraid to admit it.  The marriage is over.  That’s harsh!  Especially during the holidays.  We don’t want to spoil it for the kids, the family, ourselves, etc.

But when the holidays are over, the left overs eaten, the tree out with the garbage, and decorations put away and the undesireable gifts returned, what do you have left but a broken marriage and being attached to someone you cannot stand.

Do something about it in the New Year.  Take a proactive role in your future.

For more information about divorce and divorce topics, procedures, laws in Palm Beach County, Florida, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.