Addictions And Divorce Law In Florida

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

When a husband or wife has an addiction, often times spouses look the other way.  Until a divorce is in progress.  There is a legal significance to addictive behavior in the State of Florida.

It does not matter whether the addiction is to alcohol, drugs, sex, shopping, anger, gambling, job hopping, collecting, hoarding, or any other addiction.  In Florida divorce courts, it all comes down to marital money, marital waste, or what’s called dissipation of marital assets.

For example, if your husband has squandered money in Vegas, you have a claim for dissipation of marital assets.  Or if your wife spends endlessly at the mall, you have a claim for dissipation of marital assets.

For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com  for more information.

Do I Need A Divorce Lawyer To Get A Divorce In Palm Beach County?

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

The answer is it depends.  Legally, you do  not need a divorce lawyer.  Your life is at stake, but this is not criminal court.  If you have virtually nothing to divide, no children to worry about, you can probably do your own divorce.

However, if you have a claim for alimony, or a defense to it, or have children, or assets and debts to fight over, chances are you need counsel.  The more issues there are between the husband and the wife, the more likely there is a disputed issue (or several) and you will want someone on your side.

Additionally, you might want other professionals to assure that you will get what you are entitled to.  That could be a CPA or even a psychologist.  For more information, come in for a consultation.  Call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.

Can You Talk To Your Spouse During Divorce?

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Can you talk to your wife or husband while divorce proceedings are ongoing?  The answer is, it depends.

Normally if both parties have divorce lawyers involved, it is best to talk to your lawyer and have your lawyer talk to your spouse’ counsel.  That way, nothing falls through the cracks…there can be no misunderstandings…and issues get documented.    Granted, this runs up your legal bills, but it is better to let the lawyers handle it and also be the fall guys.

Certainly, if there is mental or physical abuse, a paramour involved, vindictiveness, anger, mental health issues of either or both parties, or any kind of stress between the two of you, ALWAYS talk to your lawyer and not your spouse.  On the other hand, if you and your spouse are amicable, you can talk to your spouse, but be sure to document the conversation, and inform your lawyer of any conversations.  On no account are you to sign any agreements, even if on a cocktail napkin, without your lawyer’s approval. 

In normal cases, spouses are directed to communicate with each other regarding the children but nothing else. For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

Managing Emotions During Divorce

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

In addition to managing money during divorce, it is very difficult to manage your emotions.  You may have a cheater spouse, or an abuser spouse and just want to get even.  Or you may be the cheater or abuser and you just want to get out.

Managing emotions during divorce is tricky but necessary.  I try to explain to my clients that divorce primarily is about children and money, not about power and stuff.  But this is a hard concept to grasp when you are in the middle of a divorce fighting over stupid insignificant things.

Sometimes it is like a continuum, on the least offensive side is resentment and on the most offensive side is revenge.  Put anger, hate, mistrust, hurt in the middle.  With emotions like these flying, it is difficult to stay on course to getting the divorce done intelligently.   Add to the mix a lack of self confidence, confusion, inability to focus, hyperventilating, shakes, headaches and anxiety, and you could end up being a big mess who is difficult to deal with.   This applies equally to men and women.

The best advice I can give you if your emotions are not controllable, is to seek the help of a therapist who can assist you in putting things in perspective.   Then seek legal counsel to sort it all out in an intelligent manner.  If you are thinking about getting a divorce in Palm Beach County, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

What Does Your Future Look Like?

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

It is a new year…and it happens every year.  Are you where you want to be or is it the same old, same old.  Only you can decide.

What goes into making the decision to stay in a bad marriage, make the marriage better, or bail?  Ask your friends, neighbors, teachers, clergy, therapist.  Hardly anyone makes the decision to divorce all by themselves.

There are people out there who love you, care about you, and know you.

Think about domestic violence, drug use, abuse of alcohol or children.  Spouses who kick the dog are having anger management problems that will surely escalate.  Think about change…which is something most people hate.  Think about fear, denial, hope it will get better but it doesn’t.  Go to counseling.  Go to the bank.  Go see a lawyer.

Then you can make an intelligent decision about facing the family, friends, and people who care and respect you.  Then there are the details of child support, time sharing, alimony, paying off debts, dividing the assets.

If the inevitable is looming, take some control of yourself, get your mojo back and be yourself.   For helpful information, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.

The Emotions Of Divorce.

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Divorce is an emotional state, whether you are the one who wants to divorce or you are the one who is not wanting to divorce.

The emotions associated with divorce are sometimes more severe if you are the one who does not want to divorce.  When a spouse puts out this information to the other spouse, the first emotion may be SHOCK.  How many times have your heard divorcing friends say they never realized anything was wrong with the marriage.

After shock, comes DISBELIEF.  How could someone close to you do this to you. Then comes DENIAL.  It can’t be happening.  Maybe marriage counseling will work.   When it suddenly sinks in that this is imminent, then comes ANGER.  Why did we not work on the marriage.  How did it get to this point.  It’s his/her fault!

Anger tends to last for awhile.  But when anger fades, RESIGNATION or loss of hope settles in.  Now you realize what you have to face.

Resignation or loss of hope may turn into VINDICTIVENESS.  Or a “get even” approach to divorce.  This may become an ugly divorce.  Or an expensive one because of the litigation involved.

As time wears on, and the process is completed, each spouse will get on with their lives.  In extreme cases, where post traumatic stress syndrome sets in, spouses can walk around for years feeling these bad emotions. This happens most often where there are young children at the time of divorce, and the parties have to stay in contact for a number of years following the divorce.

For more information, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.

The Psychological Cycles of Divorce. A helpful guide for your understanding.

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Deciding to get married is easy.  Deciding to divorce is a much more difficult exercise.  In the State of Florida, if one spouse seeks a divorce, generally, the other spouse has no say in the matter.

So if you are on the receiving end of “I want a divorce”, here are the cycles that you may go through:

1.  Denial.  You may not yet realize what is happening, or if you do, you have hopes of getting the marriage back on track

2.  Anger.  Once you realize this is for real, you get angry.  How could your spouse do this?

3.  Guilt.  The next step is to think it is something that you have done to ruin the marriage.  You blame yourself for the breakup.

4.  Depression.  You go through a sadness stage.  You may lose or gain weight; have sleepless nights; anxiety attacks; crying bouts; chronic fatigue.

5.  Forgiveness.  You realize what is going to be and you start to forgive your spouse and yourself.

6.  Acceptance.  You are beginning to plan your future.

7.  Recovery.  You are ready to move forward into the future.

There also may be physcial ramifications of each of these stages.  Your immune system may be effected and you may be susceptible to colds.  You may find yourself hyperventilating with an anxiety attack.  You may feel tired all the time.  Overwhelmed with divorce paper work.  You may be unable to focus and concentrate.

You may find yourself forgetful, scattered, confused.

If you find yourself unable to cope with the divorce process, seek professional assistance in a marriage counselor and retain an attorney you have confidence in.  That will take away most of the worry.

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