Moving Next To My Ex

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

I had a client whose spouse was very difficult during the divorce proceedings.  My client, while going through a divorce, found a significant other, and the spouse was wild with jealously, trying to do everything possible to make everyone’s life miserable. Including renting a house directly across the street from the marital home. 

The spouse would verbally attack the new love and/or the spouse at the mailbox, at the school, at the mall.  The spouse would box up all the personal effects and leave them out on the lawn for all the neighbors to see and the sprinklers to destroy.  The spouse would tamper with the mail, and generally spend the days spying.  This spouse was out side when the they went to work, and when they came home. 

Not only was the spouse vindictive, but the kids were in the cross fires.  This went on and on even after the divorce.  It seemed to the neighbors that the police were always being called for one reason or another.  Finally, after two years post dissolution of this craziness, the lover moved out and the now former spouse left the rented house.   What happened was they finally got an emotional divorce.  The legal divorce was done two years prior, but neither party, it seemed, had let go.  They were as entwined as they were when they were still married.   The moral of the story is to get an emotional divorce along with a legal one.   For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

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What Are Grounds For Divorce In Florida?

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

There are many reasons to divorce.  Among the most common are problems with in laws and children in extended families, money problems, addiction to drugs, sex, alcohol, gambling, shopping or whatever.  There could be mental health issues such as depression, paranoia, or a bi polar personality.  There could be mental or physical abuse or repeated domestic violence.  A marriage can be a sham without a basis, just for immigration purposes, for example, or for health insurance.

There could be fraud in the inducement, (riches, babies) and the spouse finds out too late that whatever attracted him/her to the marriage is not true. 

There are many reasons to divorce.  But in the State of Florida, the only grounds you need to divorce include a 6 month residency, and a declaration that the marriage is irretrievably broken.  That’s it.  All other grounds are emotional ones, not legal ones. 

Are these emotional grounds relevant?  In some circumstances, when it comes to dividing the marital estate, marital debt, and providing support, they could be.  But Florida is a no fault state.  If you meet the residency requirement and declare the marriage irretrievably broken, you will get your divorce.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the Palm Beach divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

If You’re In Abusive Relationship, Get Out Now

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Although I am a divorce lawyer in Palm Beach County, Florida, I often think I could have been a therapist.  In dealing with legal issues of divorce matters, I often counsel my clients to help them to feel better about their decision , because divorce is not easy under the best of circumstances.

If you think you are being abused in your marriage, your recourse is 1) to get counseling to fix the problem, or 2) get out before the situation escalates.  Here are some tips to determine whether or not you should file for divorce immediately:

1.  If your spouse isolates you from friends and family.

2.  If your spouse is verbally demeaning, puts you down in front of people (even your children),  ridicules you, constantly critisizes at every turn, you can never do anything right,  bullies you, or purposely embarrases you.

3.  If your spouse blames everyone (mostly you) for all of his/her bad fortune.  It’s never his/her fault.

4.  If your spouse is jealous of you, what you do, who you are with, your time away from him/her.

5.  If you have a parent/child or master/servant relationship and you are the child or servant, you are being abused.

6.  If your spouse threatens you with leaving, hurting you or your children, cutting you off financially, or uses fear to control you, time to flee.

7.  If your spouse is an addict of any kind, i.e. illegal or prescription drugs, alcoholic, sex, shopping, gambling, internet surfing, or any other addiction, it is at YOUR expense emotionally.

8.  If you catch your spouse cheating on you or spying on you.

9.  Of course physical violence is the holy grail of abusers.  Get out while you still can before anyone gets hurt.

For more information about divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

What Is A Guardian Ad Litem?

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Where there are children in a divorce situation, often times the court will appoint, upon motion of either parent , a guardian ad litem to advise the court as to what is in the best interests of the child/ren.  In order for the judge to appoint a guardian ad litem, there has to be some detriment to the child under the present circumstances; either abuse, abandonment or neglect.  If the child is harmed by physical violence, exposed to drugs or sex, has bruises, goes to school dirty or shows signs of disease, these are the types of cases where a guardian ad litem may be asked to do an investigation and write a report of recommendations to the judge.

Guardians are used in custody situations.  They have to be qualified in some manner to serve.  Sometimes they are even attorneys, but do not act as advocates, but rather as advisors to the court.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

Managing Emotions During Divorce

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

In addition to managing money during divorce, it is very difficult to manage your emotions.  You may have a cheater spouse, or an abuser spouse and just want to get even.  Or you may be the cheater or abuser and you just want to get out.

Managing emotions during divorce is tricky but necessary.  I try to explain to my clients that divorce primarily is about children and money, not about power and stuff.  But this is a hard concept to grasp when you are in the middle of a divorce fighting over stupid insignificant things.

Sometimes it is like a continuum, on the least offensive side is resentment and on the most offensive side is revenge.  Put anger, hate, mistrust, hurt in the middle.  With emotions like these flying, it is difficult to stay on course to getting the divorce done intelligently.   Add to the mix a lack of self confidence, confusion, inability to focus, hyperventilating, shakes, headaches and anxiety, and you could end up being a big mess who is difficult to deal with.   This applies equally to men and women.

The best advice I can give you if your emotions are not controllable, is to seek the help of a therapist who can assist you in putting things in perspective.   Then seek legal counsel to sort it all out in an intelligent manner.  If you are thinking about getting a divorce in Palm Beach County, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

Reasons Marriages Fail

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

There are many reasons for divorce, and we divorce lawyers know that every divorce case is different.  The themes (i.e.child support, alimony) are the same but every marriage has its own intricacies.

Here are some reasons marriages fail:

1.  Marrying too young and growing apart.

2.  Huge age difference.

3.  Having children.

4.  Sickness of the spouse or children.

5.  Financial problems.

6.  Loss of job.

7.  Being divorced previously or being a child of divorce.

8.  Abuse, physical or mental.

9. Different values.

10.  Different religions.

There are many other reasons marriages fail such as meddling in laws or outside influences, cheating, and mistrust.  If you see yourself in any of these circumstances, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. for more information at 561 835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.

Deciding to Divorce…things to consider.

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Deciding to divorce is like deciding to get married…it is life changing.  Below are several issues to think about while you see how this weekend goes with your husband or wife:

1.  The kids.  Some people stay together for the sake of the kids.  Some people get divorced for the sake of the kids.  The question is should you limit exposure of your kids to your spouse.

2.  The finances.  Divorce used to be for the rich and famous.  It is going back to that.   Divorce lawyers are expensive, and so is the divorce.

3.  Mindset.  Can the husband and wife have an amicable divorce or is it going to be like the movie, War of the Roses.

4.  Relocation.  Do you want to stay where you are or relocate and move on.

5.  Sex.  Are you getting any?

6.  Violence.  If there is abuse of any kind, get out.  People don’t change.

7.  In laws.  You can divorce them too.

Of course this is a simplified list, and every case is different.  To learn more about your rights in divorce court, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.