The Many Faces of Cheaters

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

You caught your husband/wife cheating.  Now what?  You have two options.  Leave or stay.I hate to boil it down to such a simplistic statement because I recognize the frustration, confrontation, anger, disappointment, hurt, fear and even sometimes violence that results. The emotions of being betrayed are intense and heart wrenching.  What follows discovery of the cheating is either an admission of guilt or denial of same; then there is the blame game.  Or making light of a serious situation. Or remorse and apologies followed by useless promises.  No matter how you look at it, cheating causes marital trouble.

But here’s the big punch:  I am not just talking about cheating as being extra marital sex, adultery, affairs, or romances.  In addition to sex cheating, I am also talking about financial cheating; food cheating; chores cheating; gambling cheating; emotional cheating; alcohol or drugs cheating.  Think about it for a minute.  Some marriages have more than one!

These many faces of cheating can have serious and disastrous effects on a marriage.  Things like financial ruin,broken trust, abandonment, domestic violence.

If you find yourself to be the victim of a cheater, like I said before, you can either leave or stay.  If you stay, hope for change.  If you leave, your life is then under your control.

For more information about divorce in Palm Beach County, call one of the divorce lawyers at Robin Roshkind, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.

Who Should Be On Your Divorce Team?

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida
If you are going through a divorce, you have lots of experts giving you great guidance, advice, and opinions: your BFF, your next door neighbor who heard or saw all the fuss, your mother, your co-workers, your hairdresser.  But the team you really need on your side consists of professionals who are well versed in dealing with divorce issues.

You should first consider who you hire as a DIVORCE LAWYER.  Be sure there is a open line of communication and confidence, and no personality conflicts.  Second in line should be your SHRINK.   This professional will help you get through the stress and emotions of separation, divorce, and transitioning to an individual.  Next comes your FORENSIC ACCOUNTANT.  This team member is the number cruncher who traces money and assets, both obvious and hidden.  Then there is the PRIVATE INVESTIGATOR.  This professional tracks down a carousing, partying spouses, who may or may be spending substantial money on a paramour.  They also get the goods on drinkers and drug users.

Lastly, comes your KEY WITNESSES:  teachers, babysitters, friends with children who play with yours, medical professionals, or police officers who had to come investigate domestic violence, if any, and any other witnesses who can help your cause.

For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

Can You Still Have Sex With Spouse While Divorcing???

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

I am not a moralist…I am a Florida Bar divorce lawyer.  Legally speaking, you can have sex with whomever you want to.  Florida is a no fault state.

If you are in divorce proceedings, and are still having sex with your husband or wife, this just might make settlement EASIER.  Yes, EASIER.  You still have a commonality which obviously matters to both of you.  I am a lawyer, not a therapist.  And I am not suggesting you do this, but, as a lawyer, I don’t find it entirely bad.

Sex is communication.  Divorce settlements require communication.  You can connect the dots for yourself.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.

If You’re In Abusive Relationship, Get Out Now

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Although I am a divorce lawyer in Palm Beach County, Florida, I often think I could have been a therapist.  In dealing with legal issues of divorce matters, I often counsel my clients to help them to feel better about their decision , because divorce is not easy under the best of circumstances.

If you think you are being abused in your marriage, your recourse is 1) to get counseling to fix the problem, or 2) get out before the situation escalates.  Here are some tips to determine whether or not you should file for divorce immediately:

1.  If your spouse isolates you from friends and family.

2.  If your spouse is verbally demeaning, puts you down in front of people (even your children),  ridicules you, constantly critisizes at every turn, you can never do anything right,  bullies you, or purposely embarrases you.

3.  If your spouse blames everyone (mostly you) for all of his/her bad fortune.  It’s never his/her fault.

4.  If your spouse is jealous of you, what you do, who you are with, your time away from him/her.

5.  If you have a parent/child or master/servant relationship and you are the child or servant, you are being abused.

6.  If your spouse threatens you with leaving, hurting you or your children, cutting you off financially, or uses fear to control you, time to flee.

7.  If your spouse is an addict of any kind, i.e. illegal or prescription drugs, alcoholic, sex, shopping, gambling, internet surfing, or any other addiction, it is at YOUR expense emotionally.

8.  If you catch your spouse cheating on you or spying on you.

9.  Of course physical violence is the holy grail of abusers.  Get out while you still can before anyone gets hurt.

For more information about divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

Addictions And Divorce Law In Florida

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

When a husband or wife has an addiction, often times spouses look the other way.  Until a divorce is in progress.  There is a legal significance to addictive behavior in the State of Florida.

It does not matter whether the addiction is to alcohol, drugs, sex, shopping, anger, gambling, job hopping, collecting, hoarding, or any other addiction.  In Florida divorce courts, it all comes down to marital money, marital waste, or what’s called dissipation of marital assets.

For example, if your husband has squandered money in Vegas, you have a claim for dissipation of marital assets.  Or if your wife spends endlessly at the mall, you have a claim for dissipation of marital assets.

For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com  for more information.

Domestic Violence Is Serious

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

In the times we live in, with unemployment, foreclosures and short sales, bad credit, maxed out credit cards, lowered credit, and higher taxes, families are experienced an all time high level of financial stress.  Discussions in the home are often about money, or rather the lack of it, how to spend or not spend what is left, and who gets how much.  Household bills are mounting.  It is no wonder that tempers flare.

Domestic violence is on the rise.  Calls to Florida’s domestic violence centers are up 40% from 2008 to 2009. In Palm Beach County in the past year, calls for help have increased by 27%. 

Domestic violence is a misdemeanor crime punishable by up to one year in prison.  If convicted by the court, this crime stays on your record without possibility of it being erased, sealed or expunged.  In criminal background checks performed by current or prospective employers, your record will be found out.  This could affect your job. For non US citizens, this could mean being deported.

Pushing, choking, hitting, throwing things, or hurting your spouse or significant other in any way can result in a domestic violence claim.  Sex without consent is rape even if between married people.  The victim should immediately call police, press charges and get a copy of the police report.  He/she should also go apply for a restraining order at the State Attorneys Office citing immediate fear of immenent harm. 

Some other considerations are as follows:  was the harm caused by self defense?  Was there a false accusation for monetary gain?  Are there witnesses?

If you are the victim of domestic violence, or if you are falsely accused, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb for more information.

Marriage and Sex Addiciton: How To Handle It

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Tiger Woods isn’t the only husband with a sexual addiction.  New statistics show that up to 60% of husbands cheat on their wives at some time during the marriage.  That is huge.  Not all of the husbands, of course, are sex addicts, and there are many reasons to cheat.  But I think sex addiction is more prevalent than we women would like to think.

So how do you handle a husband who you suspect is a serial cheater?  First, check his cell phone when he is in the shower.  Make sure you are not delusional.  Then when you have the evidence, you have two options after the crying and confrontation: stay in the marriage or go.  

Of course, this is simplistic advice.  Many women don’t want to give up the good life marriage brings with it, so they may choose to look the other way.   Many don’t have a good married life so they can’t wait to throw the creep out of the house and file for divorce.    Some may want to try therapy, like Tiger Woods.  But therapy does not guarantee an in tact marriage.  Just ask Elin Woods.  She has removed herself and her children from the whole darn mess.  Tiger may find his conscience, but it also may be too late.

It may be too little too late for your spouse too.  The legal ramifications are as follows:  bank accounts will be cleaned out, children relocated to grandma’s house, wife calls her friends for moral support and then she retains counsel.

For help with divorce or to know your legal rights, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.