Time to Divorce is After the Holidays

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, FL

Some folks still do it the old fashioned way…that is, staying together for the sake of the kids.  With the holidays having come and now gone, those who were unhappy, fighting, and miserable, during the holidays, and staying together just for the kids…now is the time to divorce!

Get your act together.  Find out about the family finances.  Get copies of those bank statements and credit card bills from 2014 and bring them in to see me.  The time is now.  By the end of January, it becomes tax preparation time.  You will have to gather financial information anyhow, so your spouse will not suspect you are preparing for divorce.  Keep it quiet until you get all your ducks in a row.  Preparing for a divorce is like being a private eye.  You need to set up before you do anything.

For advice on what will be needed or what your rights are, call or come in for a consultation.  You don’t have to take it anymore.  The holidays are over and it’s time to move forward.  See our web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com or call today for more information 561-835-9091.

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The Many Faces of Cheaters

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

You caught your husband/wife cheating.  Now what?  You have two options.  Leave or stay.I hate to boil it down to such a simplistic statement because I recognize the frustration, confrontation, anger, disappointment, hurt, fear and even sometimes violence that results. The emotions of being betrayed are intense and heart wrenching.  What follows discovery of the cheating is either an admission of guilt or denial of same; then there is the blame game.  Or making light of a serious situation. Or remorse and apologies followed by useless promises.  No matter how you look at it, cheating causes marital trouble.

But here’s the big punch:  I am not just talking about cheating as being extra marital sex, adultery, affairs, or romances.  In addition to sex cheating, I am also talking about financial cheating; food cheating; chores cheating; gambling cheating; emotional cheating; alcohol or drugs cheating.  Think about it for a minute.  Some marriages have more than one!

These many faces of cheating can have serious and disastrous effects on a marriage.  Things like financial ruin,broken trust, abandonment, domestic violence.

If you find yourself to be the victim of a cheater, like I said before, you can either leave or stay.  If you stay, hope for change.  If you leave, your life is then under your control.

For more information about divorce in Palm Beach County, call one of the divorce lawyers at Robin Roshkind, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.

BAD MARRIAGES GET WORSE DURING THE HOLIDAYS

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

If you’ve married for love and the love has run out…or you married for money and the money has run out, changes are, you and your husband or wife are not the happily married couple everyone thinks.  With the holidays upon us, it can be especially difficult to keep smiling and pretending.

There are all sorts of marital stresses during the holidays.  First, consider the now very common blended families.  Children and ex spouses from another lifetime suddenly appear at your dining table.  Time sharing squabbles, airline delays, and disputed schedule changes are hard enough, but during the holidays, they all seem to magnify.

Second, consider the family budget. With the current state of the economy, holiday spending is a hot topic of dispute.  Even something so simple as when and where to shop can become major wars in a household already on edge.
Third, no rest for the weary takes the place of sexual intimacy in front of the fireplace.  Forgive me for being a grinch, but let’s get real here.  You do have a house full of people, right?

Lastly, closing out the year and having high hopes for the new year causes one to reflect.  Like those new year’s resolutions, if divorce is one of your aspirations, I am here to help get you through.  For more information, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

Holidays Can Be Difficult Days For Those In Troubled Marriage

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

It is no surprise that along with the holidays comes the stresses of the season.  It is a well known fact that people stress out over the holidays.  It is especially hard for couples who have failing marriages, couples who are trying to stay together for the sake of the kids, couples who just hopelessly don’t know what to do.

Husbands and wives who have already moved out and on mentally, especially have a hard time keeping it together at this time of year.  How do you pretend?  How do you stay pleasant?  How do you keep from blowing up?  Psychological counseling or marriage counseling is one answer.  A consultation with a divorce lawyer is another.  It may put your mind at ease and give you a plan to keep you from unraveling.   If you know your rights in divorce court, you may be able to make better choices during the season’s festivities.  For more information call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.

Judge’s Decision vs. Amicable Settlement In Divorce Court

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

When you are thinking about filing for divorce, you had better think about what kind of marriage you have.  That is to say, is it full of hate and vindictiveness?  Is it full of secrets?  Is money scarce?  Does your spouse withhold sex?  Are you just room mates without passion?  Is there a paramour involved?

The personalities of the husband and the wife are key along with the circumstances for the bad marriage.  Often this determines what type of divorce you will ultimately be involved in.  If both parties realize the marriage has been over for years, it will be a much easier divorce than if your spouse just caught you in the bedroom with another and ran out to file papers.

Is there a way to predict?  Sometimes marriage counseling can help husbands and wives resolve the issues of whether to go forward or not with an amicable divorce, or to litigate and let the judge decide how  you will live the rest of your lives.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091.

What To Do If You Catch Your Spouse CHEATING???

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

I get this question all the time in my practice.  You really only have two options: you look the other way and enjoy life, or if you are not enjoying life, you file for divorce.  Florida is a no fault state.  Spouses can and do cheat.  It’s how you react and what you do or how your spouse reacts and what he/she does that determines the future.

If the cheating takes on a serious turn, the cheater may file for divorce.  Or the innocent spouse may file first, depending upon emotions.  But what I see more and more, it is not the cheater filing for divorce, but rather the innocent spouse.  The cheater generally likes things just the way they are.

The innocent spouse should gather photographs, documents, copies of everything financial, store small valuables like jewelry off premises, and spend time preparing for the other spouse to know you are angry…angry enough to file for divorce.  Sweetness helps to garner information, and often the cheater will brag to the spouse how amazing life is.  Let them talk, all the while finding out who the other person is, where he/she lives, and other forthcoming information.   Information turns into amunition.  Especially when you have all the information to give to your private investigator to determine if your spouse is dissipating marital assets on the paramour.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

Do You Have A Spiteful, Vindictive Spouse???

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

You are going through a divorce.  You are the one who wants out.  You have a spouse who it hurt, and as a result is spiteful and vindictive.  You want to settle the divorce issues and move on, but he/she is more interested in getting even.  What to do?

I face this question nearly every day in the 13 years I have been a divorce lawyer in Palm Beach County.   You have few options:

1.  Get into marriage counseling or therapy together immediately.

2.  Offer much more than his/her share of the marital estate to get the deal done.

3.  Meet any other demands, such as relocation, giving the marital home, or other “unfair” requirements just to move on.

4.  Stay and fight it out in court.  A judge will see the emotion at trial and will simply follow the law.

With spiteful, vindictive spouses, chances are there will be domestic violence or destruction of personal property.  Be sure to protect yourself from both situations.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.