Can You Still Have Sex With Spouse While Divorcing???

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

I am not a moralist…I am a Florida Bar divorce lawyer.  Legally speaking, you can have sex with whomever you want to.  Florida is a no fault state.

If you are in divorce proceedings, and are still having sex with your husband or wife, this just might make settlement EASIER.  Yes, EASIER.  You still have a commonality which obviously matters to both of you.  I am a lawyer, not a therapist.  And I am not suggesting you do this, but, as a lawyer, I don’t find it entirely bad.

Sex is communication.  Divorce settlements require communication.  You can connect the dots for yourself.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.

Judge’s Decision vs. Amicable Settlement In Divorce Court

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

When you are thinking about filing for divorce, you had better think about what kind of marriage you have.  That is to say, is it full of hate and vindictiveness?  Is it full of secrets?  Is money scarce?  Does your spouse withhold sex?  Are you just room mates without passion?  Is there a paramour involved?

The personalities of the husband and the wife are key along with the circumstances for the bad marriage.  Often this determines what type of divorce you will ultimately be involved in.  If both parties realize the marriage has been over for years, it will be a much easier divorce than if your spouse just caught you in the bedroom with another and ran out to file papers.

Is there a way to predict?  Sometimes marriage counseling can help husbands and wives resolve the issues of whether to go forward or not with an amicable divorce, or to litigate and let the judge decide how  you will live the rest of your lives.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091.

Divorce Is A Very Confusing Time

ByRobin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

During divorce proceedings, some people remain living together and others separate.  In either case, it is difficult to tell people how to behave toward each other.  Should you be cordial if you run into each other at the grocery store or at a party?  Should you check in to let the other person know what time you will be home?  Should you fill up the cars with gas like you always used to do?

Aside from the legal aspects of the divorce, and the ongoing household bills and conversations about the children, how one conducts oneself is often debateable.  In my divorce practice, we settle more than 70% of our cases.  So where the husband and the wife are still residing together, I often tell my clients to be calm,  cordial and business like.   This helps with settlement negotiations.  Leave the emotions out the front door if possible.  Surprisingly, many couples can do this, because they have lived together for so long under undesireable conditions, that by the time they are in divorce court, they both just want to get it over with. 

Dating and telephone calls, messages and texting from outsiders is another area of divorce etiquette that is really up to the individual parties as to how to maintain them.   One thing is for sure:  if you want to amicably settle divorce issues, don’t purposefully embarass your spouse.  Don’t intentionally aggravate human emotions of jealously, rivalry, territorial instincts, abandonment and the like.  It is easier to settle a divorce case without stirring the pot.

If you are thinking about getting divorced in Palm Beach County, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

Social Media Tells All To Your Spouse During Divorce

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

If you are involved in divorce proceedings, or even thinking about a divorce, be careful of social media.  Match.com, Love@aol.com, Ashley Maddison, Twitter, Facebook, Linkdin, and other social networks can tell the world a lot about your contacts, lovers, dating habits.  This includes your spouse and his/her divorce attorney.

Boasting about a new boat, photos of a new sports car or hot new girlfriend can and will be used against you in divorce court.  Privacy issues to do not apply when you post something on Facebook.

In fact, if you think your private communications via computer are off limits and secret, think again.  We divorce lawyers can use spyware on cell phones, computers and private investigators can perform surveillance on you.  If you have secrets, they will be discovered in divorce proceedings.

So be careful what you say and do, online, in private, everywhere.  If  you are thinking about getting a divorce in Palm Beach County, Florida, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

PRIVACY and divorce…there isn’t any!

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

When it comes to divorce, you can run but you can’t hide.  PRIVACY is the biggest issue.  In Florida, the sunshine state, it is out in the sunshine.  Everything in divorce is public record, available for the world to see.

Financial affidavits, marital settlements, accusations of drug use, unemployment, problems with your children, all are discoverable by anyone who wants to know.

Also, take the social networking sites of facebook, myspace, web sites, blogs and stuff YOU put out there, not realizing it can all be used against you in divorce court.  Dating web sites, photos, social connections, nothing is sacred.

Your computer can be your worst enemy, and yes, even if you push “delete” the evidence is still there and discoverable. 

For more information about how to protect yourself, call one of the attorneys at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.

Divorce and your computer.

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Think about the secrets you have… where do you hide them?  Divorce lawyers know exactly where to look and we hire forensic IT guys to help us.  The following list should be a warning to spouses everywhere that you can run but you can’t hide:

1.  Cell phone text messages

2.  Cell phone voice messages

3.  Facebook

4.  Twitter

5.  Youtube

6.  MySpace

7.  Dating web sites like Match.com

8.  My pictures

9.  Your blackberry

10.  Your web site

11. Lojack on your car

There is no privacy anymore, so if you are in divorce court or are contemplating a divorce, be aware of what you put into cyberspace.  You may inadvertently be shooting yourself in the foot so to speak.  Remember, divorce is about finances, custody (your behavior), money in bank accounts, lifestyle (credit card bills), income and telling the truth.  So if you have something to hide in the trunk of your car, don’t leave the car keys on the table.

For more information about this or other divorce topics, consult with one of the attorneys at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.