The Many Faces of Cheaters

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

You caught your husband/wife cheating.  Now what?  You have two options.  Leave or stay.I hate to boil it down to such a simplistic statement because I recognize the frustration, confrontation, anger, disappointment, hurt, fear and even sometimes violence that results. The emotions of being betrayed are intense and heart wrenching.  What follows discovery of the cheating is either an admission of guilt or denial of same; then there is the blame game.  Or making light of a serious situation. Or remorse and apologies followed by useless promises.  No matter how you look at it, cheating causes marital trouble.

But here’s the big punch:  I am not just talking about cheating as being extra marital sex, adultery, affairs, or romances.  In addition to sex cheating, I am also talking about financial cheating; food cheating; chores cheating; gambling cheating; emotional cheating; alcohol or drugs cheating.  Think about it for a minute.  Some marriages have more than one!

These many faces of cheating can have serious and disastrous effects on a marriage.  Things like financial ruin,broken trust, abandonment, domestic violence.

If you find yourself to be the victim of a cheater, like I said before, you can either leave or stay.  If you stay, hope for change.  If you leave, your life is then under your control.

For more information about divorce in Palm Beach County, call one of the divorce lawyers at Robin Roshkind, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.

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All I Want For Christmas Is A Divorce!

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

It is on many couples’ wish list.  But several couples are afraid to admit it.  The marriage is over.  That’s harsh!  Especially during the holidays.  We don’t want to spoil it for the kids, the family, ourselves, etc.

But when the holidays are over, the left overs eaten, the tree out with the garbage, and decorations put away and the undesireable gifts returned, what do you have left but a broken marriage and being attached to someone you cannot stand.

Do something about it in the New Year.  Take a proactive role in your future.

For more information about divorce and divorce topics, procedures, laws in Palm Beach County, Florida, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.

Can You Still Have Sex With Spouse While Divorcing???

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

I am not a moralist…I am a Florida Bar divorce lawyer.  Legally speaking, you can have sex with whomever you want to.  Florida is a no fault state.

If you are in divorce proceedings, and are still having sex with your husband or wife, this just might make settlement EASIER.  Yes, EASIER.  You still have a commonality which obviously matters to both of you.  I am a lawyer, not a therapist.  And I am not suggesting you do this, but, as a lawyer, I don’t find it entirely bad.

Sex is communication.  Divorce settlements require communication.  You can connect the dots for yourself.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.

Abuse and Divorce…You Don’t Have To Take It Anymore

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Abuse comes in many forms:  physical abuse can be sexual, violence, imprisonment.  The courts recognize domestic violence and repeat domestic violence and upon proper claim, will remove the spouse from the home.

Abuse can also by psychological: taking away the car keys, cell phone, money,  children.  Courts recognize psychological abuse and will issue court orders to protect you upon presentation of proper evidence and testimony.
If you find you are the victim of either type of spousal abuse, your ultimate recourse is divorce.  You don’t have to live your life this way any more.   Either the husband or the wife can be a victim.  The best advice is to do something about it.

For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.

Misconceptions About Divorce

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

I often get asked questions from clients that seem so elementary to me that sometimes I feel like a therapist.  But I get these same questions over and over again, so I thought I should address them for the benefit of those who need the advice:

1.  Is divorce going to devastate my family?  It doesn’t have to.  If you and your spouse are adult enough to put children first, you will realize you will be co parenting for a long time and do what you think is in the best interests of the children.  The problem is that often the two opinions don’t jive but rather conflict.  When that happens, there is mediation or therapy.

2.  Do I have to list every penny I spend and earn on my financial affidavit?  No, as long as you estimate closely to what the real figure is.   This is not an exercise in balancing your checkbook.

3.  Will my spouse follow a court order?  He/she should, but if he/she doesn’t, you have legal recourse.

4.  Will my case settle?  In my practice 75% of our divorce cases do settle.  As for a particular case, who knows?  We certainly advocate for amicable settlement, but sometimes that is just not possible.

5.  Will I have to leave the family business?  If you are divorcing, yet working in a family business, it is highly likely that you will be foreclosed from continuing in that position if the family is on your spouse’ side.

6.  Will my lifestyle suffer as a result of the divorce?  It depends.  Some people prosper without their spouse dragging them down financially or emotionally.   Others face problems on their own that they never had before as part of a married couple.

7.   Who gets the dog?  This is an interesting one.  Pets are viewed under the law as chattel or things, no different than a living room sofa.  However, pets carry the emotions of their owners as if they are children.  I have done cases where the former spouses exercise time sharing.  Also I usually try to have the pet go where the children go at the time.

8.  Can I date and have sex?  Of course.  Florida is a no fault state.  Just be sure the children aren’t harmed in some way from your behavior.

There are hundreds of these types of questions.  If you have one, pick up the phone and call 561 835 9091 to arrange for a consultation with me on your specific case.  Or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.

Be Sure You Want To Divorce Before You Start.

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

There could be no greater waste of money and aggravation then starting the divorce process only to realize you’ve made a mistake.  It happens.  In cases where that happens, husbands and wives usually reconcile, only to get back to bad habits and divorce court one year later.  Or not.

The best advice I can give you is go to marriage counseling.  Come to some conclusions together that either you are going to stay together or divorce.

Only then will your money be well spent on divorce lawyers.   For more divorce tips call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

Should You Get Divorced?

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

You know you are in an unhappy marriage, but should you pick up that phone to contact a divorce lawyer?  Below are some reasons why you should:

1.  If you are being physically hurt.  Domestic violence transcends all socio economic levels.  It should not be tolerated.  You must take your children and get out of harm’s way.

2.  You never have any money.  Your spouse doles out the dollars sparingly making you beg for more.   In divorce court, you will get your life back.

3.   You have no help at home.  It would be easier to just take care of yourself instead of your spouse’ needs too.

4.  Sex, alcohol, gambling, drugs, spending addictions are part of your life.  Your spouse is ruining your life and won’t get help.

5.  You are always on edge, nervous, or walking on egg shells.  No way to live, and life is too short.

6.  Too much yelling.  If you say the sky is blue and your spouse says it has a purple tinge to it, bail now.  Unless you are a litigator and want to spend your life arguing.

7.  Cheaters and liars, oh my.  A leopard does not change its spots.

There are many reasons to not stay married.  Find out today what your rights are for your specific marriage facts.  Call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com for more information.