Not Obeying Court Orders

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

If you are divorced, you have a court order that either directs you or your spouse to perform certain obligations. This can be the payment of child support and/or alimony, making mortgage or rent payments,  executing a quit claim deed, or transferring property or other tasks.

If you are charged with the obligation, and willfully do not do what you are supposed to do, you may suffer the consequences of contempt of court, that being substantial fines or incarceration.

If you are the recipient, and you do not receive what you are entitled to under the court order, it is up to you to take affirmative legal action by filing a motion for enforcement or contempt.

in that event the parties will have to go to an evidentiary hearing  and present evidence and testimony.  For more information about this or other divorce topiplea all one of the divorce a lawyers at Robin Roshkind, P. A. At 561 835 9091, or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.

You’ve Gotten A Divorce But You’re Still Stuck With Your Ex?

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

One advantage certain couples have, is that once the divorce is final, both parties can go their separate ways without interference from the other.  They never have to see each other again; they never have to talk to each other again… about anything.  That is unless they are sharing a business,  a dog, or children.

If a divorcing couple has any of the above, they are in it together for the next number of years until the children reach the age of majority, the business folds or is bought out, or the dog dies. Along with child support, shared parental responsibility and time sharing, which keeps the two of of tied together,  the focus today is on co parenting.

Co parenting can be very difficult, especially if the former husband and former wife just don’t see eye to eye.  An exaggerated example: The kids get to eat candy in one home, while in the other they are forced to do homework.  This is an example of a typical dilemma co parents face all the time: different co parenting styles.  The best advice is to live and let live, unless there is some detriment to the children.  Pick your battles wisely.

Even so, children hone in on certain things, and usually can figure out how to play one parent against the other.  Remember, you are the adults.  You should wise up to this ploy and work together for the best interests of your children.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

Sex With Your Ex?

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

The shrinks always tell us that what attracted the two of you to each other in the first place, is the very thing you can’t stand about each other at the end of the marriage…EXCEPT SEX.  Sometimes couples fall back into the sex trap, causing conflicting feelings, derailing divorce proceedings that should be progressing, and mixing up the kids.

Sex with your ex is an all around bad idea.  It has been used as a power play, or ploy is a better word, to gain advantage in divorce court.  It has been used as a convenience, a familiar site, or worse, for abuse and control upon the other person.

If you are thinking about having sex with your ex while in divorce proceedings, seek professional help through  marriage counseling or psychotherapy.  Or if your spouse or former spouse “just makes it happen” in the lust of the moment, at least be aware that you are being used.  Stay away from denial.  Remember the sun will shine again tomorrow.  For more information about this or other hot divorce topics, call one of the lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com for more information.

Can You Change A Marital Settlement Agreement Once It Becomes A Court Order?

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Yes.  A marital settlement agreement and court order of divorce can be changed by AGREEMENT OF THE PARTIES or by COURT ORDER.  A court order will be the result of a PETITION FOR MODIFICATION OF FINAL JUDGMENT.  It has to be based upon a substantial, material change of circumstances.  You would have to prove such a change requires a modification at the POST DISSOLUTION TRIAL.

However, there is an EXCEPTION…once property and debts are divided in divorce court, or even by agreement of the parties, that part of the final judgment is a done deal.  Spousal support (alimony) and children’s issues (time sharing, child support) can be modified.  Division of assets and debts cannot.

For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.

Children and Divorce…Psychological Effects

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

I am a divorce lawyer, not a child psychologist.  However, because I see common behaviors in children during the divorce process, I can speak to some of the psychological effects I see in my divorce practice.

1.    Kids are smart.  They play one parent against the other to get what they want, whether it is a toy or game, or time with a friend, a trip, a new pair of shoes etc.

2.  Kids have hope.  They want their parents back together again.

3.  Kids may be unwelcoming.  They do not need or want a new mommy or daddy, so be careful in forcing them into your new relationships.

4.  Kids are flexible.  They have friends whose parents are divorced and they have friends whose parents are not.

5.  Kids blame themselves.  Don’t you blame them too for the break up.

6.  Kids are not messengers.  Don’t use them as such.

7.  Kids are not pawns.  Don’t use your kids to “get” at the other parent.

8.  Kids need stability and love.  From BOTH of you.

This list can go on and on.  For more information about children and divorce, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.

Children and Divorce…A Legal Check List

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

There are many issues in a divorce that has children involved, both the legal and the psychological.  I will address the legal issues today and the psychological issues in another writing.

Legal issues involving the children of divorcing parents include:

1.  Time sharing (or what used to be called “custody”).

2.  Health insurance (children MUST be covered in the State of Florida).

3.  Schools (private or public)

4. After school care or activities

5.  Relocation with minor children or geographic restrictions

6.  Child support

7.  The parents’ significant others

8.  The parents relationship with each other (shared parental responsibility)

9.  Uncovered medical/dental bills

10.  Housing must be clean and safe

11.   Pets

These are the issues that must be addressed in any marital settlement agreement or final judgment of divorce by trial if there are children involved.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.

Do You Have Right To Keep Husband’s Name in Divorce Proceedings

by Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Divorce brings many changes, financial, emotional, and physical.  Two areas of testimony at final hearing in Palm Beach County divorces are as follows:

1) The judge will ask if the wife is pregnant.  This is to protect any unborn child of the marriage.  Once the birth takes place, medical care and child support will have to be instituted by court order.

2) The judge will also have to ask if the wife wants her name prior to the marriage to be restored.  It is up to the WIFE not the husband, as to whether or not she keeps her married name after the divorce is final.

In some cases where there is a famous name involved, or a high asset divorce, the husband may negotiate a price or reimbursement to the wife to drop the name.  It is again her choice.  There is no law in the state of Florida that requires the wife to change her name.

For more information about this or other divorce topics in Palm Beach County divorces, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561 835 9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com for more information.