By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida
You want to seek legal advice about your marriage…you are at the end of your rope and tired of giving second and third chances…marriage counseling is not working…you are unhappy all the time. If you can relate to these emotions, your marriage is over. But should you tell your husband or wife you hired a lawyer?
While every case is different, it is wise to get all your ducks in a row before confirming you are serious about divorce and have hired counsel. I advise my clients to photograph the contents of the marital home; remove small itms like engagement rings, that can be “stolen”. I advise my clients to photocopy tax returns, corporate books and ledgers, credit card bills, bank statements, loan documents and other EVIDENCE prior to divulging the fact that an attorney has been retained.
If your spouse does not know you have hired counsel, it is much easier for you to prepare your case. Document bad behavior, such as drunkeness, drug use, failure to spend time with the kids…things that can magically change overnight once a divorce petition is filed with the courts. The time between deciding to divorce and actually filing divorce papers is a very valuable time to gather documents, remove separate property, and generally take stock of the marriage without interference from your spouse.
Let your divorce lawyer come up with a strategy your spouse can’t wiggle out of. So generally it is best to hire your lawyer, decide what to do and then when you are ready, and only then, tell your spouse a divorce is imminent. For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at http://www.familylawwpb.com.