Should you rush to settle or hold out for more?

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

As with any type of negotiation, timing is everything.  In the State of Florida, all parties to a divorce have to attend mediation, which is a setting promoting settlement of the disputed issues in the divorce.  The question becomes whether or not to settle. 

The answer is, it depends.  Mostly on your mindset and your circumstances.   Ask yourself the following:

1.  Am I ready to move on.

2.  Can I manage with what is negotited and on the table.

3.  Has there been full financial disclosure and if not, do I care.

4.  How are the kids doing?

5.  Can I take the stress of a trial.

6. Do I have sufficient funds to support litigation.

While each case is different, there may be other considerations as well.  These include the health of the parties, age, incomes, extended families, is another marriage imminent, and other such considerations.  For more information about your rights, call one of the attorneys at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.

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Rehabilitative alimony…how does it work?

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

In the State of Florida, there are several types of alimony or spousal support that one can ask for:  permanent, periodic alimony, temporary alimony, lump sum alimony, bridge the gap alimony, and rehabilitative alimony. 

This article deals only with rehab alimony.   Alimony in general is based upon one spouse’ need and the other spouse’ ability to pay.  Both prongs must be met for an award of alimony.  Rehabilitative alimony is usually a specific, short term alimony that puts a spouse back into the employment market.  It is alimony specifically paid for the purpose of  completing one’s education so as to obtain employable skills. 

For example, if a wife has completed two years of college, she can request reabilitative alimony to complete the last two years for her degree.  Or if a teacher who has retired during the marriage has to renew a teaching certificate and needs several courses to get up to speed, rehabilitative alimony would be awarded for that purpose.   

In order to get rehabilitative alimony, one must have a specific plan in place.  You must know exactly what additional schooling or training you need for a specific career, where you will be doing your training, how long it will take, and how much it will cost.  Without these details, presented as evidence in court, the judge will not award you rehabilitative alimony.   

Rebabilitative alimony as one form of alimony, can and usually is  awarded with other forms of alimony.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the attorneys at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.

Deciding to Divorce…things to consider.

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Deciding to divorce is like deciding to get married…it is life changing.  Below are several issues to think about while you see how this weekend goes with your husband or wife:

1.  The kids.  Some people stay together for the sake of the kids.  Some people get divorced for the sake of the kids.  The question is should you limit exposure of your kids to your spouse.

2.  The finances.  Divorce used to be for the rich and famous.  It is going back to that.   Divorce lawyers are expensive, and so is the divorce.

3.  Mindset.  Can the husband and wife have an amicable divorce or is it going to be like the movie, War of the Roses.

4.  Relocation.  Do you want to stay where you are or relocate and move on.

5.  Sex.  Are you getting any?

6.  Violence.  If there is abuse of any kind, get out.  People don’t change.

7.  In laws.  You can divorce them too.

Of course this is a simplified list, and every case is different.  To learn more about your rights in divorce court, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.

Friends During and After Divorce, part II.

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Everyone has an opinion…your neighbor next door, the baby sitter, your mother, your personal trainer, your secretary, your gym buddies…all will tell you what you should be doing, what you are not doing, what you’ve done is wrong, and more, about how you are handling your divorce.

Don’t listen to any of them!  Every case is different and no two outcomes are ever the same.   Any lay advice is bad advice.  You are talking about your life, the life of your children, your finances and your future here.   That should be discussed with your shrink, your accountant and your divorce lawyer.  There is a reason all three are on your team. 

If you don’t have a team of experts on your side, you are short changing yourself on something that is going to determine the rest of your life.  Don’t be penny wise and pound foolish with your future.  (Note: This advice is not self serving…someone other than lay persons should assist you in making these important, long lasting decisions.)  For more information call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.

Friends During and After Divorce.

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

It is difficult for your friends to see you go through a divorce.  Sometimes they choose sides and sometimes they try to tactfully navigate between the husband and the wife.  But it is common knowledge that married friends socialize with married people and singles gravitate toward single people.

There is a reason for this…wives do not want single woman around their husbands.  It is jealousy and sometimes threatening.  A single woman can have sex with whomever she chooses…single woman fix themselves up intentionally and often look more “put together”.   Single men have the same options and even more attitude.  Married men can be jealous of the freedom and sexuality of a single man. 

Singles and marrieds are like water and vinegar.  So don’t blame your friends if suddenly you are not invited to that dinner party.  It is a human condition.  For more information about divorce please call on one of the attorneys at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.

Going from Married to Single…lots to consider.

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

The divorce process at best is a tangle of voluminous paper work, keeping emotions in check and taking care of household bills and children.  It can be stressful under the most amicable of circumstances.

But there is much more to consider other than the family finances and medical bills for the kids.  How does one go from being a part of a family unit to being on your own, alone, by yourself, in charge of your own time and money?  It is a HUGE adjustment.  You have to consider the following:

1.  your calendar

2.  your work schedule

3.  what do to in your free time

4.  doing your own banking, taxes, doctor’s visits, travel by yourself

5.  going to the grocery store, JUST FOR YOU

6.  your kids schedule

7.  relationships with family and friends

8.  coming home to an empty house

9.  coming home to a house filled with kids

10.  setting up your own lifestyle, sexual and otherwise

Being alone and in charge can be something many divorced people enjoy and even look forward to.  It just takes a lot of getting used to.  For more information call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.

Living Together During Divorce.

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

Because of economic reasons, many couples can not afford to separate and run two households even after one of the spouses has filed for divorce.  This can be both a good and bad situation. 

Where an amicable settlement of divorce issues is imminent, a joint living situation gives the parties time to discuss things and work out the terms of the divorce.

Where there is dispute, or worse, anger management or mental health issues, this can cause a situation to blow up out of proportion, and even result in domestic violence.

How do you live together during divorce?  If the house is large enough, it is easy to stay out of the other’s way.  Keep a separate bedroom or live in the guest quarters.  However, if the home is small, you have to schedule use of kitchen, baths, and refrigerator with tact.  Don’t get in each other’s way.  Don’t antagonize the other.  Try not to let a bad situation get worse.

Sit down to discuss living expenses and how they will be shared.  Discuss chores and timesharing with the kids.  If you cannot accomplish this between yourselves, bring in a divorce lawyer to get a temporary court order which governs these issues.   In this way you can at least alleviate disputes on a temporary basis to allow for peaceful living until the divorce decree is signed.  For more information about this or other divorce topics, call one of the divorce lawyers at ROBIN ROSHKIND, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at www.familylawwpb.com.