Angry children and divorce.

By Robin Roshkind, Esquire, West Palm Beach, Florida

When it comes to divorcing parents, children have strange reactions.

Sometimes they blame themselves for parents who split up.  Other times, they become insecure and effected by the circumstances which they have no control over.  This may result in your child becoming an angry and problematic child.  He or she may act out in school, stop eating, having nightmares or exhibiting other behavior of a troubled child.  Below are some helpful hints toward curbing anger in your child:

1.  Teach your child how to express feelings and to saywhat is bothering them.  Then you can make it known that the divorce is not because of them.

2.  Help your child understand that anger has to be controlled.

3.  Explain the range of anger from frustration to mad to malicious and what behavior is unacceptable.

4.  Teach your child how to deal with anger.  Discuss deep breathing, counting to ten, and using self talk to calm down.

5.  Point out anger coping skills a child can use such as writing down an event that upset them; taking action to avert a temper tantrum; asking for a hug or comfort.

6.  Most importantly, set a good example.  Going through a divorce is not easy.  If you set a good example of anger control, your child will learn how to copy your coping with anger.

7.  Lastly, if you are having problems with your child, seek professional help with a child psychologist.

For more information about children and divorce, call one of the attorneys at Robin Roshkind, P.A. at 561-835-9091 or click on the Firm’s web site at


One thought on “Angry children and divorce.

  1. Thanks for this excellent advice. Anger is a common emotion for both parents and children as they move through divorce. Learning skills to better cope and express yourself is pivotal to a successful transition. And because we, as parents, are role models for our children, it’s even more important for us to model responsible behavior as we face the inevitable challenges related to divorce.

    Best wishes,
    Rosalind Sedacca, CCT
    The Voice of Child-Centered Divorce

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